Unexpected visitors...Like, or don't like?

[Steve_of_sandspoultry]

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[Gardengirl 2011]

aubreynoramarie you remind me SO much of one of my best friends with how you feel about visitors. She's the same way and is truly loved by everyone. She was the adopted "mom" of the neighborhood kids and now that her kids are grown, they ALL still call her Mama.

My mom never liked unannounced company and I pretty much grew up with that same attitude. I've changed my thinking on that though over the past year or so. I figure if they want to stop by, then they WANT to see me. It makes me feel good to spend time with people who want to spend time with me. If my house is a mess, I just tell them to excuse it while I pick up.

Besides, I've been in the friends houses who would stop by here, and quite frankly, their houses aren't better homes and gardens spic and span either.

We all LIVE in our homes. That's what makes it a "home".

I too am surprised at how most don't like drop ins. I figured it'd be more like a 50/50 split. Interresting.

 

[QH Girl]

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specially the bra part

yeah that! It seems that the older I get the less likely I am to feel like entertaining, especially uninvited guests. My BFF is the only exception, and she knows to call first if she has anyone in tow - otherwise I'm likely to be braless.

 

[fuzziebutt]

If I'm at home, the house is clean, but the hair isn't combed and there is no bra on. Poor hubbo. But I do have an all over tan, and people that think they are gonna drop in don't mess up our sex life.

 

[MeatKing]

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ohhh I
m so gonna make one of those signs

 

[Henicillin]

My house is about 45 minutes from both my family and my outlaws, so drop-by visits aren't an issue, as it's too far a haul for any of them just to pop in unannounced. This is an excellent situation, as I can't stand drop-in visitors, and never could. I work in a high-stress, fast-paced environment where I have multiple issues demanding my attention literally nonstop from anywhere from six to ten hours a day. When I'm not working, I don't want to have to focus my attention on anything in which I'm not interested, especially entertaining unwanted visitors. Heck, I've never even held a housewarming party, as I don't want anyone here. Antisocial hermit? You betcha!

 

[Laurajean]

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The part in bold sounds just like me. Everyone expected that I would have a housewarming party as well. I had no interest in that. In fact, I moved out in the woods to get away from everyone! Don't get me wrong, I love my family and friends, but I just don't want them dropping into my sacred privacy whenever they feel like it.

And the rest of your post sounds pretty reasonable to me!

 

[Beekissed]

multiple issues demanding my attention literally nonstop from anywhere from six to ten hours a day

This is my problem as well. I interface with the public all day and that public is usually under some kind of stress that I have to diffuse or, the more likely scenario, absorb into my own system. Whenever I get home I am ready for silence, comfort, solitude. I value it so much that I kind of build my life around it. If I could live way back in the woods and high on a mountain, I would never come down again!

I don't think it is anti-social thinking when your working life is completely and totally social-oriented and you need to download in private. It's called common sense...everyone needs to find their quiet place and heal. The people, I find, who don't understand that concept are usually SAHMs, retirees, or those who do not work with the public all day.​

 

[Kudzu]

proselytizers

My new word for the day, thanks.

 

[Laurajean]

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This is my problem as well. I interface with the public all day and that public is usually under some kind of stress that I have to diffuse or, the more likely scenario, absorb into my own system. Whenever I get home I am ready for silence, comfort, solitude. I value it so much that I kind of build my life around it. If I could live way back in the woods and high on a mountain, I would never come down again!

I don't think it is anti-social thinking when your working life is completely and totally social-oriented and you need to download in private. It's called common sense...everyone needs to find their quiet place and heal. The people, I find, who don't understand that concept are usually SAHMs, retirees, or those who do not work with the public all day.

That's what I did. Moved to the woods on a mountain and only go down for supplies! I love it.