Unexpected visitors...Like, or don't like?

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

I am SO grateful this thread is here.

I keep trying to be the mother I wanted to be - that one where all the kids came over?

I am not her. I am a very private person and cannot stand un-invited guests.

Once a few years back an entire family just dropped by.

Well, once or twice a year I make this very complicated dish that my family adores. It takes all day to make, the ingredients are expensive and it could feed six people, but it would be stretching it to feed 9! So, they hang out and hang out and hang out and I do not extend them an invitation.....

during their visit the neighbors also crash in - another four people! --- and they - in apparent disgust invite the family over to their house and say they'll throw a load of spaghetti on.

OK I was making a special meal for MY family. Not something that could be stretched to include now another 9 people on top of my family. And what else was I supposed to do order in pizza?

You drive over with your kids you feed 'em!

ugh. No, I don't like drop ins.

 

[sheaviance1]

I don't mind uninvited guests, but do mind if it's extremely early or extremely late. If they happen to stop in on me during dinner time, i usually extend an invite. Most people will decline and use that as their cue to leave, but the teenagers are always ready to eat!

 

[quintinp]

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omg i love this,,,,,,, i wanna do this when i am in my forties,,,, lol........ usually when we get drop-ins, they normally don't come at supper time, except my little brother's friend, but he doesn't bother us MOST of the time, but a few times he has came to our house 7 days a week for about 2 weeks, and always ate supper with us, needless to say after my mom finished her little talk to him, he knows when to come over, and after i was talking to my mom i found out it really wasn't that he came over and ate, it was that he came over every time we went out to eat,,,,,,,,, by the way my little brother is just a year and a few months younger than me, and his friend is my age.........

 

[Jamie_Dog_Trainer]

With very, very few exceptions I don't ever want people to stop by without calling first. Those exceptions would be my best friend, my Mom or Dad. I had to talk to my MIL one day about stopping by without calling. She started doing this frequently, plus my FIL is a Pastor and people from the church started stopping by when we bought our house. Three different times I had church members show up unannounced to see our new place. Two of these families I was barely aquainted with at all....

After the third time that happened I stopped answering the door. It has nothing to do with how my house looks for the most part, it has to do with how offended I get. I have never gone to someone's house unannounced unless it was an emergency.

One call to say you are on your way over is all I ask!

 

[crawfordmama]

Where I came from, a call is expected before someone drops by. However, we now live in a small town where DH (and his whole family) has lived for his entire life. Things are different here! People stop by at all hours of the day. Don't get me wrong - some people are always welcome no matter what. But I am not excited to open my door to anyone outside of this category. I work from home, and I am constantly interrupted by folks coming by, and sometimes I look out the window and just see people wandering around he yard looking at DH's cars and stuff (yeah, we have a lot going on out there

). I sort of feel like I just have to grin and bear it. It's a small town, and I don't want folks thinking that DH's "transplant" is a rude witch (although I'd love to tell people where to go when they drop by and linger during our son's birthday party or dinner).

We also have a horseshoe-shaped driveway. A couple of times I've sent our great dane Jack out to great people. He'll run right beside the cars, able to look right at the driver. Those people usually loop right around and leave. We are considering a driveway gate, but I have a feeling some people will just park on the road and walk up to the house.

I really do try to keep our home very clean and presentable, but with DH, two boys, and our animals, it can be hard. We do live here, after all. Despite this, it seems like there are certain people that always seem to stop by and see the house at its worst! I'm always afraid they think we live like heathens!

Oh, well. I'm really glad I'm not the only one bothered by unexpected guests!

 

[heatherindeskies]

I don't even like expected company.....

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

If someone hasn't been here 20 times, they have to get help to find us. By then, they know to call first, plus we are out of the way to stop by.

 

[yinepu]

I'm an antisocial hermit.. i moved out into cow country to get away from people.. to a place where even the ups and fedex guys get lost trying to find me... so no.. i don't like uninvited guests.. and luckily not many want to venture way out here to the sticks... so it works out quite well

 

[oldrooster]

Sorry about starting a zombie thread here, but I love this thread! I have family drive two hours to drop by and they couldn't understand why I told them to leave because I was trying to leave myself for a job interview. The same people while I was in the hospital an hour and a half from my home (had a emergency specialized surgery) drove 3 and a half hours to drop in on me when they knew I was likely to be in surgery to be there when I got back into the room! I was groggy in pain and wanted to sleep after getting some pain meds and the nurse refused to make them leave!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[kbh82310]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who HATES drop ins and hides lol! 99.9% of the time I won't answer the door prob because I watch too much lifetime. I'm kinda a hermit, I much rather stay home with the hubby and animals than go out but I also have anxiety around groups of people. My anxiety got better about 6 years ago but I still rather be home. Plus as everyone knows with having pets inside things don't stay clean long at all so my house is usually ok almost always a mess, but with 10 indoor pets and a hubby it's a never ending battle..

I've found that watching hoarders makes me feel a lot better about my house keeping tho!