I went to a college graduation a couple years ago. One of the honored, featured speakers was a lady who had taken 13 years to graduate. Along the way she had kids out of wedlock, several lost jobs, substance abuse and public assistance, etc. At first glance this is an uplifting story of a woman who overcame much adversity and persevered to obtain her degree. And in truth there are some valuable lessons here and we should be happy for her. However, should she be singled out and lauded for overcoming her many bad decisions? What about that young lady or man who had a 4.0 in high school, graduated valedictorian, didn't drink or do drugs, worked a full time job while a full time college student, finished college in 3.5 years and graduated at the top of the class? I'm sure that student (or one similar) exists. Would it not be fitting to honor that person as a featured speaker? This is someone who did not have to overcome the results of many bad decisions because they made good decisions and did things the right way. As members of a society shouldn't we reward the ones who strive to succeed through planning, hard work and good decisions?
Now, I know that many of us make poor decisions at times. We lose our way and sometimes suffer severe and even heartbreaking consequences.But can we not value the person who avoids drugs more than the recovering addict, the person who stays a healthy weight rather than the one who weighed three times their ideal weight and struggled to lose it, the one who has always been law-abiding instead of the reformed criminal? I could go on and on with examples. Do we tend to celebrate the "rule breakers" and fail to appreciate the steady, rule follower as much as we should? What do all of you think?
Now, I know that many of us make poor decisions at times. We lose our way and sometimes suffer severe and even heartbreaking consequences.But can we not value the person who avoids drugs more than the recovering addict, the person who stays a healthy weight rather than the one who weighed three times their ideal weight and struggled to lose it, the one who has always been law-abiding instead of the reformed criminal? I could go on and on with examples. Do we tend to celebrate the "rule breakers" and fail to appreciate the steady, rule follower as much as we should? What do all of you think?