Okay, first of all I gotta say that I'm a Christian and that there may be Christian content in this post, so if you disagree with my faith you may not want to read this/post...I don't want anyone getting upset, so please be respectful and be warned.... Now, with that said, I'll start from the beginning: My husband's Grandma and I do not get along. She is 100% biased towards anyone who came from her blood, and even more so towards her male blood relatives. So anyone not from her bloodline are the enemy. Anyways, for the purpose of complete honesty, I can't stand this woman. I feel bad for the fact that no one in her family likes her, but other than that I can't stand her. She and I have gotten into several fights all because "I was keeping her from showing love to her family" (which I wasn't, those were cases of me not letting her give my child and my neice and nephew sweets before they at their regular food). She has left people messages saying she wishes my husband and I hadn't gotten together, that I'm all this terrible stuff and more. In the same breath, she talks about God and how much she wants marriages to work and blah blah blah. I understand she may be a little confused about the whole God is love thing and whatever, so I don't even go that way. Well, recently she has been asking us for money. I don't have a problem giving her, say, $20/month, that's something in our budget. Her children hate her and won't help her with anything, so she won't ask them for money, but my husband (her grandson) and I care about her and don't want her going without. This month, though, we've been putting our money aside for Christmas and everything else, and right now after all the Christmas shopping we did we have a little more than our bill money and gas money. We did have enough to give her what she asked for, I'll say that now. Her gas has been turned off for about 2 months now, and she's come over to our house once when it got really cold since she doesn't have any heat. Two weeks ago she asked for $30, my mom (who is on state assistance and completely broke) heard about it and gave her $20. This got Grandma an extension on her water bill. Today she called wanting $40 so her water wouldn't get shut off. I got kinda upset since there are places with special funds for utility assistance for elderly people, but she's too freakin proud to ask. I called her church to let them know her situation. They were 100% awesome about it and said they have a fund for helping church members who are in need. They said they would pay her full water bill, no problem, and they may even be able to help her get her gas turned back on. Anyways, hubby called Grandma to tell her not to worry about her water bill, but didn't tell her the church would be paying it cause he didn't want her to flip out. Later on tonight we got a call from the lady at the church. She told me that she had called Grandma and that Grandma told her that the bill was already taken care of. I told they lady it wasn't, that she's thinking my hubby paid the bill himself. So the church lady is gonna call the water dept in the morning to pay the bill, and hubby called Grandma to tell her what was going on. SHE FLIPPED OUT. She says that we were wrong for going behind her back to tell her church what her financial situation is. She is now convinced that she can't show her face at the church now because they'll look down on her as being a poor widow (even thought that's what she is) and that it's all MY fault for opening my mouth. She officially hates me again (which is kinda an ongoing thing) but even more so I don't think she's gonna go back to church there or let them pay her bill. I'm upset that she's willing to ask my husband for money despite the fact that he's the only meager income for our family of 3, but she's not willing to swallow her pride and ask her church for help. She's been a member there for years and always tithes, but doesn't want them to think she's poor. I feel bad cause God says to care for the poor, widows, etc....and that He'll take care of us. At the same time I feel this woman is walking all over us because she knows my husband will give her money. Was I wrong for calling the church???