What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[Buugette]

My hubby said no... no... no... then he was a little open to it but kept asking WHY?

Because I want them!!!!!!!

That didn't go over well. Anyhow... I ended up getting sick and had 2 operations ahead of me. Nothing serious, but enough to make him nervous. Next thing you knew, I came home with 3 little babies. I used one of HIS bins when they were little... which didn't go over well... then I stole one of his bigger bins from his truck... which went over even better.

Last Tuesday I had my first surgery... and when I got home this past Sunday, a new coop was half way built. We went out and picked out the paint today. I felt really bad cause my son and hubby designed it, and I want to modify it a little. I told him over dinner and he just kinda grinned and accepted it.

I love my hubby and can't wait to get MORE CHICKENS!!!!

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[Equus5O]

We built our house on nearly 50 acres in 2004. I'd been saying, off and on, since then that I would reeeeeaaaallly like to have chickens. I mean, I'm not getting any more horses (yet), I don't want cows (yet), I'd like to have goats or sheep (but not yet), but I would reeeeeaaaalllly like to have chickens.

This spring, he goes out and buys a chicken coop. Then, he goes out and buys the chain link fence and stuff. Then, he actually puts up the chain link fence and stuff.

Then, I bring home 8 chickens, and he wants to know why I didn't buy more!

When I'm working, he's usually the one to turn the girlies out. I've caught him more than once just hanging out drinking a beer and watching the girls free range.

He keeps asking me when I'm bringing home more chickens.

 

[hearthnsoul]

You could tell him how he would be the envy of his friend having so many chicks around him....worse case scenerio just wrap him up with duck tape, quack quack andleave him in the coop til he comes to his senses

 

[hikerchick]

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You can't post a question like that and not expect a wide variety of viewpoints. Nowhere in this thread, though, did I see anyone being hostile. Where are you getting that from? Just because people see things differently than you does not make them hostile. I think everyone was a model of restraint considering the emotional matter of the subject and the wildly differing viewpoints. Should we have all just picked one common viewpoint and agreed on it? You use the word straightforward like you think it is a bad thing. You should be happy that you sparked such an interesting discussion. I for one made some new friends because of this thread.

 

[Msbear]

I can understand why the OP feels like she does. There are umteen pages on why her marriage is falling apart and why she lets men walk all over her. And, that may not be the case as none of us know her. Marriage is a very personal thing and it would upset me if folks were disecting mine. They have to discuss things and get things approved by eachother just like everyone else... well, most of us. Maybe some women on here have more "hand"

but we certainly don't know her situation. I do know that marriage takes teamwork and understanding. And Bikerchick, you told her you'd rather die a slow death than be in a marriage like hers... that kind of wording feels a bit hostile to me

I brought home some impulse geese from a swap last month. OMG, you would have thought I had just gotten home from a gambling binge at the racetrack ...which I haven't done in years!!!

I understand it is an extra mouth to feed and, in my case, a WHOLE LOT more poo to clean but, dang it!! those birds were soooo sweet. I got reemed... but, he let them stay. Two days later my beautiful garden looked like it got slimed! and they were eating all my plants. I definitely didn't know what I was getting into and Rusty was right (like he usually is) so I re-homed the sebasto-babies

for the good of the whole.

When you get back from vaca, get your BR

And know that I did not build any of my three coops all of which my hubby protested. I smiled and handed him the work gloves and he went off to build. Now, he loves to show everyone who comes over his handy work

If your hubby is that turned off by them, I would probably do as much as I can to keep him from having to deal with it but remind him who makes him dinner and who snuggles with him at night. Marriage is teamwork and Rusty does things for me (I could've built those coops as I am quite handy with the power tools but it would've taken me a month!!! He's better at certain things and Im better at different things. That is what makes our team excel... finding who's better at what and let them at it for the good of the whole.

 

[Judy]

I decided at least 20 years ago there is no way I would ever remarry, and my marriages were not nearly as awful as some, really rather civilized. My independence matters to me so much more than a relationship would. I have even met a couple of people since then who might have been a good candidate. Some of us simply have a lot more desire for a good, lasting relationship than others. And certainly it takes commitment, communication compromise, etc. -- not things I am interested in pursuing any further.

And certainly I am not "right" or "wrong" as applied to anyone else; this is a personal choice only.

I wish the OP good luck and a great life with her husband.

 

[hikerchick]

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I assume when you say Bikerchick you mean Hikerchick.

I expressed how I would feel in a similar position. Do I not have that right? I don't recall using the words you cited, however, I am not going to go back over all of these posts. I don't recall saying "slow death" or "marriage like hers", but if you can find the quote, I will own it. And how can my feelings about my own life be construed as hostility? I never once said anything hostile about the OP. I said how I would feel in that situation. I thought that was what a forum was for. Should I construe that all the people who lined up to agree with her were being hostile to me? I think people are being a tad hypersensitive.

When you post your personal life out there for the world to see, you cannot complain when people express opinions about it. It is not hostility if those opinions don't happen to support your views.

 

[Msbear]

The OP was looking for opinions concerning a certain situation and I think she feels bombarded by a lot of stuff that may be important to many of you but not at all what she was asking for... let's just say this is a runaway train thread.

Hikerchick, I did try looking up the old posts and I found this which isn't near as bad as I made it sound... sorry

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He told her she couldn't have another chicken... we don't know any of the history.. maybe they don't have the room or the time to take care of a chick and he was just being rational.. we don't know.

Im just trying to say that Im sure she didn't expect so much resentment toward her and her "lifestyle"... WHICH WE KNOW NOTHING ABOUT. This forum is about differing opinions and we should be free to express our opinions. That is what makes this forum so great but hijacking threads to make a personal point that may not be of interest to the OP is rude... not against the rules, I guess... just rude.

 

[Ladyhawke1]

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I assume when you say Bikerchick you mean Hikerchick.

I expressed how I would feel in a similar position. Do I not have that right? I don't recall using the words you cited, however, I am not going to go back over all of these posts. I don't recall saying "slow death" or "marriage like hers", but if you can find the quote, I will own it. And how can my feelings about my own life be construed as hostility? I never once said anything hostile about the OP. I said how I would feel in that situation. I thought that was what a forum was for. Should I construe that all the people who lined up to agree with her were being hostile to me? I think people are being a tad hypersensitive.

When you post your personal life out there for the world to see, you cannot complain when people express opinions about it. It is not hostility if those opinions don't happen to support your views.

I agree.

This is something that we need to remember. Sometimes we take on-line communication too lightly and in our frustration, we reveal too much about our personal lives. This does leave us open to other peoples comments. When we do, we should not be surprise at the responses.

 

[hikerchick]

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He told her she couldn't have another chicken... we don't know any of the history.. maybe they don't have the room or the time to take care of a chick and he was just being rational.. we don't know.

Im just trying to say that Im sure she didn't expect so much resentment toward her and her "lifestyle"... WHICH WE KNOW NOTHING ABOUT. This forum is about differing opinions and we should be free to express our opinions. That is what makes this forum so great but hijacking threads to make a personal point that may not be of interest to the OP is rude... not against the rules, I guess... just rude.

I believe my opinions directly addressed her questions. It was just not the answer she wanted to hear. Hijacking a thread implies introducing a new topic, which, in my opinion, I did not do. She posted a question about how to deal with a controlling spouse and I posted my opinion on that subject. I am sorry that my opinions are so upsetting to so many people.