Bottom line: I'd rather be alone than be married to the wrong man.
Life is too short to be miserable. Besides, "being happy" is an inside job. We are all about as happy as we decide to be, regardless of our circumstances.
Truer words were never spoken.....er..typed!
My marriage and subsequent relationships were not ideal...I'm a bum magnet also. But, I'm a nurturer and those are the kind who attract needy misfits. As a nurturer, I am happy caring for others and this has it's benefits.
BUT....I am a nurse, so I get to get all that out of my system with people who REALLY need help. I have been single so long now that it would be very difficult to give up the:
Remote control
Sprawling in the bed....and NOT smelling anyone's farts but my own!
Fixing food when I'M hungry and not until.
Cleaning when and if I feel like it.....
And things staying clean when I do clean.
Freedom of coming and going when and if I feel like it (there is nothing more annoying to us single gals than asking a married gal to do lunch, a movie, shopping, a road trip, etc. and hearing "Weeeeelllll, I would have to ask ( ) about it first."
I didn't even do that when I WAS married!
Not hearing how HIS illness is just sooo much more painful or distressing than anything I could ever have experienced...even childbirth.
Not having to hope that someone will SEE things need to be done around the house, about the budget, about the car.......I just DO it ~without having the false hope and expectation that someone else is using brain cells in this marriage.
Getting (here's one you all will love!) to have any chicken, sheep, dog, cat, etc. that I may want without hearing any...oh, lovely to my ears is the golden silence...ANY dispute, questioning, even a raised eyebrow......heavenly!!!
Not having to argue about money, love, sex, chores, time.....heck, not having to argue about anything!
Blessed, contented, peaceful existence with a big Chessy grin on my face every time a woman complains about her husband...which is about every 3 seconds, from my watch. Which means I pretty much smile most of the time!
Life is too short to be miserable. Besides, "being happy" is an inside job. We are all about as happy as we decide to be, regardless of our circumstances.
Truer words were never spoken.....er..typed!
My marriage and subsequent relationships were not ideal...I'm a bum magnet also. But, I'm a nurturer and those are the kind who attract needy misfits. As a nurturer, I am happy caring for others and this has it's benefits.
BUT....I am a nurse, so I get to get all that out of my system with people who REALLY need help. I have been single so long now that it would be very difficult to give up the:
Remote control
Sprawling in the bed....and NOT smelling anyone's farts but my own!
Fixing food when I'M hungry and not until.
Cleaning when and if I feel like it.....
And things staying clean when I do clean.
Freedom of coming and going when and if I feel like it (there is nothing more annoying to us single gals than asking a married gal to do lunch, a movie, shopping, a road trip, etc. and hearing "Weeeeelllll, I would have to ask ( ) about it first."
Not hearing how HIS illness is just sooo much more painful or distressing than anything I could ever have experienced...even childbirth.
Not having to hope that someone will SEE things need to be done around the house, about the budget, about the car.......I just DO it ~without having the false hope and expectation that someone else is using brain cells in this marriage.
Getting (here's one you all will love!) to have any chicken, sheep, dog, cat, etc. that I may want without hearing any...oh, lovely to my ears is the golden silence...ANY dispute, questioning, even a raised eyebrow......heavenly!!!
Not having to argue about money, love, sex, chores, time.....heck, not having to argue about anything!
Blessed, contented, peaceful existence with a big Chessy grin on my face every time a woman complains about her husband...which is about every 3 seconds, from my watch. Which means I pretty much smile most of the time!
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