What do you prefer - Taken or livin' the single life?

[havi]

I guess Im the odd man out. I sorta liked being single. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE my hubby and wouldnt trade him for the world. But there are sometimes that I liked being able to do whatever I wanted. If I didnt want to cook for a couple of weeks, I didnt have to. If at a moments notice I wanted to drive the 4 hours away to see my grandparents I would. Its not like I have much of a life now(such as kids or going out all the time) that I cant do those things. Its just that I didnt have to run it by someone first to make sure it was alright and nothing else was planned.

 

[Boyd]

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I'm friends with a lot of people like that, and I admire that. I am a little bit needy in general. I need my cuddle time on the couch under the blanket during movies late at night, and when I'm sick, I really seem to catch a doozy. Without the wife and kids I'd be crazy me thinks. well more than usual

 

[debilorrah]

I have a caregiving gene in me. It is completely satisfying to me to cook for Ken. Laundry etc, well, it has to get done, so why not all at once. We have a great deal. I do the inside he does the outside, and that includes, mucking, feeding, repairing, building, cleaning the outside of the coops, etc.

Neither one of us feel accountable to each, we just naturally share where we are and what's up in our lives. Though both of us HATE it when I have to travel for work.

 

[featherbaby]

The freedom of being single is nice,but with every freedom comes extra responsibility. That's not nearly as much fun. The security of being "taken" is wonderfully comforting, but it takes a lot of compromise and hard work.

I'm on the fence. I used to be married, for almost 20 years. I couldn't imagine ever being single. But Things change. For the last 9 years I've been single. At first I was miserable and couldn't wait to get married again. As time went by and good men were not to be found, I made peace with being alone. I am waiting to find the man who fits with me and I with him. And he better love chickens!

Bottom line: I'd rather be alone than be married to the wrong man.
Life is too short to be miserable. Besides, "being happy" is an inside job. We are all about as happy as we decide to be, regardless of our circumstances.

 

[debilorrah]

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What you said is the truth! I would rather be single than be with the wrong person. When that right person comes along though, everything changes. I couldn't be happier with Ken.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

Taken!

I am so happy being married. I love my DH more than I ever imagined being able to love someone. I love being his wife

 

[elijahboy]

I have been a single mom for 3 years now and to me having a man was like having another child

 

[Hoosiermomma]

I have been married 18 yrs. I wish I would have been out on my own and single for awhile b/c I went straight from living with my parents to living with my husband. I wouldn't say I am happily married but content. I love and respect my husband b/c we have a strong solid foundation of friendship and I wouldn't leave him for a sec but I often wonder what it would've been like had I been able to get out and experience life as a single person. I wonder if I would have ended up with him or someone whom would have had more in common as far as likes/dislikes. I think you have to live life on your own for while so you can find your true identity without having to worry about anyone else. Geez this is too tough of a question to answer this time of night.

 

[Elite Silkies]

Taken! 10 yrs now, and I don't know what I would do without him. 10 years ago, I had made up my mind to be single and had been single for awhile. He just wouldn't give up and I gave in. Best decision I ever made other than our kids. He makes me laugh everyday, even after 10 years.

I think their is someone for everyone and sometimes it just takes time to find your soul mate.

My mom has been single for 17 years and she is absolutely happy and content. If it works for her, it works for me. But, she also lives with us, so she says she has everything in life she needs and wants (all of her kids).

 

[havi]

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I hear ya. I think the same thing sometimes. Although I did live the single life, sometimes I think, did I do the right thing. Is this the path Im suppose to be on? Sometimes I want to, as they say "find myself" but I really dont know if its just all in my head and Im only playing the 'what if' game. I'll be 26 in November.