What do you prefer - Taken or livin' the single life?

[momof247371]

Taken for 9 years. My dh is such a pain in the butt that I refer to him as my 30 year old child alot. He is like a grown child (what man isnt though) lol. O and I tell him I am going to introduce him to a pillow while he is sleeping BUT on the other hand, he has given me 2 children(that act like him) that I wouldnt trade for the world, he provides for us the best he can, and I KNOW HE LOVES ME. I would NOT trade those comforts for anything!!!!

WIth every person ,you have to take the bad qualities with the good, because as everyone knows, NO ONE is perfect! Accept the flaws and appreciate the strengths:

Divorce is so common anymore. People should have to be engaged for atleast 2 years before the marriage so they can get to know each other. Then, if people were forced to face/solve the marital problems(with compromise, understanding,flexibility, communication,etc) i think there would be fewer divorces. Most people run away from their problems now days, but if they would stick around and forge through it, they would be better people for it. IMO(not trying to offend anyone)

 

[thechickenchick]

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I agree with Featherbaby!

Me too! After being married to two of the wrong men I gave being single a chance, and LOVED it! Then the RIGHT one came along! While there are some things about being single that I miss they are nothing like what I have gained by marrying the man I have been dreaming about for 20 years! I

him!

 

[halo]

I was married for 17 years. It ended, basically, because we drifted apart. I wasnt willing to put anymore work into it and neither was he. So Ive been single since then, for ....a long time. At first I was miserable being single, hated dating, stopped doing it because I hated it. It took a long time, but I finally got comfortable with myself, could take care of myself, and in finding that part of me, now Im very happy being single. I like the independence, of not having to depend on anyone. I have a few very close friends that I can call anytime. Im afraid Ive gotten so set in my ways now, that it would take a very special person to be able to fit into my "space".

 

[CMV]

I love being taken, but there was a time I could not imagine ever spending my life with someone...forever. It sounded more like a prison term than a life choice. I found my husband and that all changed, though. I am married to the perfect man... yes, it's true. (Please don't tell him that because I don't want him to get too big for his britches!) He makes being "taken" a better adventure than any I had when I was single.

 

[sparkles2307]

There are pro's and cons to both sides!

I loved the control I had being single, especially in the parenting dept. I liked not having to ask anyone else's oppinion. I liked having the bathroom all to myself and sleeping IN THE MIDDLE of the bed. I like to flirt so that was a plus too.

Now for being married/taken
I love having someone there for me all the time. I love being able to trust someone that much. I like the support, the shared humor, the financial support, and having a father for my kids now.

I do well in either place.

 

[Rillion]

Taken with the right person, on the right terms, or single if not. My boyfriend and I "let" each other do anything we want, and appreciate our time apart as well as together, and that's worked pretty darn well for eight years now. So far I haven't wanted to do anything that constitutes a deal-breaker for him, and likewise the other way around, so we trust each other very much. If he wanted to take up taxidermy in the garage I wouldn't mind, so long as he cleans up after himself and I don't have to smell it. Having that support system is wonderful, but it's only worth keeping if it doesn't hold either of us back from doing what we want to do.

There are some things about a mate that you don't necessarily like, but that just makes that the price of admission for being with them-- do you want to pay it, or not? And you're the only person who can make that call.

 

[Quillgirl]

Taken! (so long as it's to the right person.) I've been with the right person for 22 years and am so grateful for good judgement at a young age. I love being in a loving partnership.

BUT, if something were to happen that parted us, I would probably stay single and be content. (At least that's what I think.)

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

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Now that would be the one thing I could think of that would make being single a good thing

I need to be sprawled out across the whole bed. We have a queen size bed and he likes to snuggle while sleeping so I am scrunched.

 

[Crystalchic]

taken
for sure
but only if youre with your sole mate
and he or she lets you do what ever you want

 

[redhen]

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But, of course! What other way IS there??