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How so? If you don't mind explaining
I am a little lost on the abusive relationship part ... I really didn't get that from it.
That's something that really scares me about this . . . that it doesn't seem immediately obvious to people that this is an abusive relationship. I didn't care one way or another about these books until I read them and realized there were tons of girls who were sighing over how "romantic" it all is. I'm all for reading, and I do like that people write books that give people a desire to read, but I would feel much more comfortable about the situation if I knew parents out there were sitting down with their daughter's to have a discussion along these lines: "I'm so happy you've found a series you love, but I want to be sure you understand that this is not the way a man should ever treat a woman, and it isn't a healthy relationship to be in. If you somehow find yourself in a relationship with someone like that, just know I'll be here to help." etc. Every girl should be terrified of ending up with someone like Edward.
Go ahead and look at this list and see how many you can check off for Edward. If you don't check off at least seven, read the books again for parts you may have forgotten.
http://www.ndvh.org/is-this-abuse/am-i-being-abused-2/
This has opened my eyes, though. I used to wonder how it was that people could get into these relationships and not realize how abused they were, and I'd think if they could somehow see the relationship as an outside observer, they'd realize what they were allowing to happen to themselves. Well, a large number of people have read these books and effectively been an outside observer of an abusive relationship between two people, and still thousands are blind to the abuse to the point of thinking Edward is some wonderful ideal. It's an extremely depressing thought, and makes me come down much harder on these books than I otherwise would.