What to do? Hubby doesn't want all 5!

[angelique_redhead]

We were only planning on 25 max. Then one of my friends lent me an incubator. Did you know you can get around 25 or so chicks every 3 weeks with one of those and sufficent laid eggs?

My DH also ordered me 25 more Ideal Ameracuna. They have them on sale right now but it looks like they are currently unavailable. However, they do have Buff Orpingtons, Barred Rocks, Productions Reds, and Rhode Island reds on sale still. https://secuservices.com/ideal/newideal/Products.aspx?Category=Weekly Special

: Angelique

 

[Tomhusker]

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"The Chickens."

 

[robk0220]

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Get Buffs they are so wonderful... LOL

 

[Country_Gal@Heart]

My husband and I originally agreed on only 2 chickens. We came home w/5. I then had to return one of them and came home w/3. I love chicken math! To make a long story short, we now have 2 adult laying hens and 13 chicks. We bought our first chicks at the end of April.

I have to say I am very fortunate though, my DH initially was upset when he sent me for 1 and I came home with 3, but since he went to get only 1 and came home with 2, he can't complain anymore! He is also the one responsible for bringing home the goose -- he said that it was too cute to resist.

My advice to the OP -- we can all expound on our own experiences with our respective spouses, but it's your relationship. I think that maybe you need to speak with your husband and ask him to explain his true reasons for being so upset. You say it is because you didn't run it by him first. Does he run it by you when he spends money on his music? If both of you are in the habit of discussing small purchases with each other then I could (sort of) understand his being bothered, but if that is not the case then I don't understand him being so upset over 2 chickens that cost what? $10? If this is more about him expecting you to get "his permission" then I am in total agreement with Redhen.

I know that when I first married my DH, every time I tried to discuss doing something on my own, he thought I was asking his permission until I disabused him of the notion by informing him he is my husband not my father and I don't need his permission to do anything.

May I ask how long you two have been married?

 

[Bird Collector]

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Math must be easier as you get older because I am great with chicken math

It is much easier than all that stuff they teach you way back in school.

My teachers were right though because I use the math skills everyday putting them to bed and also as I was putting together my collection until it felt like the feel good number.

 

[kfchickenlady]

"My advice to the OP -- we can all expound on our own experiences with our respective spouses, but it's your relationship. I think that maybe you need to speak with your husband and ask him to explain his true reasons for being so upset. You say it is because you didn't run it by him first. Does he run it by you when he spends money on his music? If both of you are in the habit of discussing small purchases with each other then I could (sort of) understand his being bothered, but if that is not the case then I don't understand him being so upset over 2 chickens that cost what? $10? If this is more about him expecting you to get "his permission" then I am in total agreement with Redhen."

its your relationship, only you know the real issues at hand. it must bother you though, to post your question on this forum, hope you can work out something that makes both of you happy.

 

[welasharon]

My animals go with me and I go with my animals, but you have to make your own decisions. I intend to be happy in this very short time we have on earth..preferably with him in peace but if not...oh well
Sharon

 

[teach1rusl]

Off topic, but the OP did ask: You would really need around 50 sq. ft of space for 5 chickens, vs the 30 you mentioned. I guess I'm wondering if DH prepared a space for the birds you already had, and was ticked because now he would need to redo it??? Or had he already built a coop appropriate for three chickens, and would have to build another or expand???

I most definitely DON'T believe couples should feel obligated to run every little thing by one another. But we all know our mate's quirks and when is and when isn't an appropriate circumstance to do so. I LOVE animals, pretty much all animals. I'M the big animal person in my household. Despite this, I would be a little ticked (for various reasons, including the fact that I'm the one who takes care of them, but for other reasons as well) if he brought home a goat, cat, or even another chicken without at least mentioning it to me first. I'm sure I would sucker in really quickly, but I would still be quite irritated.

 

[noodleroo]

I'm guessing by now that you are keeping the chicks and DH has gotten over it.

 

[kmwright]

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I like this, and I agree.

We've been married for 5 years. He's just easily annoyed and in turn, I get annoyed with him, then we're all miserable. But I love these chicks, as does my daughter, and I'm not taking them back. I enjoy them, I take care of them, and they make me happy. I'm not going to live with a miserable person and be miserable myself. At least I can be happy with what I have and if he continues to be annoyed, so be it.

He didn't prepare any area for them. I did that. I built a coop (I'll need a bigger one or an additional one now) and I cleared out the back area for them. I still have a little work to do but it's almost there. So he has no right to be upset for that reason. He just kept saying "we don't NEED 5." And I said "well do we NEED any? Then what's the difference?" And he kind of shrugged it off.

He'll get over it, eventually.