what would you have done?

[chixie]

my nephew hangs out at this families house... I heard somethings that I felt I had to tell my sister about for the safety of my nephew
1. that he was smoling pot with his friend and cousin at this house
2.. that they are drug trafficing.... the mom lost her husband two years ago and now she is taking lots of prescription drugs... and her adult nephew just got out of the pen for drug trafficing...
3. they go to houston all of the time(2 hour drive) but only late at night(taking my 17 year old nephew) and the only go the back roads never on the interstate... the mom doesn't work but she is always expecting a big payment... her house burned down last october and she went thru all of the insurance money building a new house ... but she says she is expecting more insurance money in feb...
she always buying my nephew expensive gifts... 100 dollar pair of dress shoes, a suit for church... a paintball gun and all of the acessories... ect

4. this woman also keeps inviting my husband over for coffee.. they were not friends before so why all of the sudden she wants my husband to come over...(he won't go overthere) and I know for a fact she has slept with married men before..

I told my sister what I have heard and told her to do with it what she wants... now my nephew is mad at me and so is the person who told this to me..
would you have told his mom? should I have just kept it to myself? I think that I did the right thing.... or at least i hope that i did...I only told his mom so that if they got busted he wouldn't be around... he swears none of its true... He tells his mom that when he is 18 he is moving to houston and will never talk to any of us again...I think they are brain washing him against his mom anyway.. he never wants anything to do with her but he always wants to be at the other families house... the killer of it all is his friend doesn't even live there anymore ... he moved out to another town...

 

[agnes_day]

what on earth would a teenage boy do with 100 pairs of dress shoes?

 

[jqs birds]

I probably would have talked to him first and told him that I had heard some disturbing rumors about what was really going on over there.
That said you were right to tell his mother. Just as long as you did it with concern and compassion. I've seen people get all holy than thou when they point out other peoples kids's faults.
Hopefully as youe nephew gets older he will pull his head out and grow up and see that all of this was just because you care. GOOD LUCK

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

I think it was one pair of $100 shoes. but still. I hope she's not a threat to the nephew!


*edited to remove possible offensive insinuation.

 

[chixie]

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I am sorry ...crying while typing...A meant A $100 pair os dress shoes... again sorry

I did not tell his mom to tell her how to raise her kid...I told her so she could be aware of what is being said and maybe going on.. there is also some other strange things going on over there ...like them driving cars with out of state plates for a day and the vehicle and then never seen again... expensive cars... I used to love this lady but she has gone down hill the past couple of years... like her house was suspicious when it burned down(we are a volunteer fire department) she left 5 minutes before the tone went out for her house being fully envolved ..me and hubby were first on the scene... the fire department just didn't push it unless the insurance company wanted them too...

I really want whats best for my nephew and I have tried talking to him but he gets defensive about it... I am really and truely worried about him... his mom is a single mother has been all of his life ... my husband and myself helped raise him... he is like a son to us... we have always included him in our family outings and vacations..

I don't believe my nephew is sleeping with her... but theese days who knows .. there is 4 other adults living there and there is 3 children all under the age of 12
I also know that I am not a perfect mother and I would want to know if my daughter was hanging out at a place that maybe drugs and possible a car theft ring... next time i see an out os states plate i will take down the info and get a police officer friend to run the plates...

 

[agnes_day]

chickensducks&agoose :

I think it was one pair of $100 shoes. but still. I hope she's not sleeping with the nephew!

woah, shes sleeping with HER OWN SON???
gross!
i would say something too, that is pretty disgusting.​

 

[chixie]

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woah, shes sleeping with HER OWN SON???
gross!
i would say something too, that is pretty disgusting.

no... the friends mother sleeping with my nephew...I don't believe that is happening..I think my nephew is nieve enough to help them with some ilegal stuff not realizing that is what he is doing... he is not the brightest boy(lord help him)... and he is too trusting... he is also dating this womans niece... he has been known to lie to help his friends

I am gonna go to bed now... night all

 

[Slinkytoys]

I hope you slept well. You did the right thing. Your nephew needs guidance even though he doesn't want it. Maybe a big stick.....hmmmm.....
Hopefully the woman will get busted soon.
Slinky

 

[chixie]

I am thinking of putting a bug in the laws ear and let them do with it what they want at least i will do my civic duty... my nephew did say hi to me ... I slept ok but had a weird dream that my sister, her kids and my self and my kids went to hawaii with my dad and step mom( what is strange is that will never happen-my step mom doest have much to do with us)... I had a good laugh this morning over it....

 

[sfw2]

Sorry you're having to deal with this. I, too, think you did the right thing.