what would you have done?

[PineappleMama]

I absolutely agree with you.

Because if it was MY child I would want someone to tell me.

I wouldn't want my first notice to be a phone call from jail, and that too often is the case.

Teens are tricky at best, even the 'good ones' are tricky. He's got a lot of growing yet to do.

Hopefully he'll do it before he gets in the kind of trouble that never gets left behind.

 

[easttxchick]

Hi Chixie,
Just wanted to tell you that, living in the same town as you do, that there is a bit of shifty stuff that goes on here(probably no more than any other rural area).
We do have an AWESOME Sheriffs Dept. here in the county that will check out the situation discreetly for you.
I think what you did you did in best interest of the nephew.
Good luck and hope things turn out well all around.

 

[horsejody]

Parents can't chosse their kids' friends, but they should always retain veto power. I made that clear to my kids from the time they were little. They got to pick their own friends, but, it I thought they were trouble, they couldn't hang around them. Your nephew is a minor. His mother should know what's going on. You did the right thing. Keep the nephew away from the bad influence, and give the sheriff's dept. the same heads up that you gave his mother.

 

[bigstack]

I am in a small town, a man, and had alot of ........(Different) experiences growing up.
First off, You did the right thing!
Second, the nephew is being courted by the single mom. (even if not sexually) Every guy would have died for the chance at an older woman. (Even if his only real chance is in his imagination) The attention is real.
Third, A depressed single woman, living in denial (sounds like it to me) loves any attention, even if from a young guy.
Fourth, (Todays times) it could be sexual. Who knows?
Fifth, The other guys are using him. They treat him like a brother and best friend. all the while teaching him (subconciously ) what needs to be done and how to do it. When the time is right, they will have some reason why they need him or want him to do them a favor. At this point he knows the process. He has seen how easy it is and the money to be made. AND it is very easy! and there is ALOT of money to make!! its just the getting caught part that sneaks up on you. They never tell or show you that part! As for informing the police; That could be another thing. If you do decide to (and personaly I would) do it in the form of a typed or emailed letter. don't be seen entering the station. in small towns people talk. If they are into something illeagle, it could be very dangerouse to be a known snitch. Be sure to include any known paths or roads and the times of the trips. include names and addresses. Maybe if they get caught with your nephew with them, it will scare him enough to stay away. if they have a record and are caught dirty they will go back to jail. if your nephew is caught dirty he should get off with probation. NO GUARENTEES!!!!!!! This is just my opinion based on my past and experiences.
I hate that this is what you have to deal with! I wish you the best of luck! It's always hardest to tell a loved one that their child is doing something wrong. Most of the time they already know it. they just turn the loving mothers blind eye. "If I don't belive it, it's not really happening!" kind of thing. Sorry again.
Good Luck and God Bless You!!!

 

[bigstack]

All in All, You did the right thing!

 

[chixie]

I can always get an officer to come to the volunteer fire department since they go there all the time anyway for official and unofficial reasons...no one would bre the wiser.. my dh is the assistant cheif so he knows alot of the officers and the cheif...I also know the sheriff so maybe i will talk to him

thank you everyone for your help and support it means alot to me

 

[debilorrah]

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woah, shes sleeping with HER OWN SON???
gross!
i would say something too, that is pretty disgusting.

Hon you need to read slower - this is a woman that is not related to the family, where the OP's nephew has been hanging out.

 

[debilorrah]

Chixie I would done the same thing. When it comes to a family member putting themselves in danger oh hell yeah I am opening my mouth!!!!!

 

[redhen]

You did the right thing! AND..i'd go one step further and call the police...
Never, EVER feel bad for trying to save your nephew....

 

[MagsC]

It sounds as if you did the right thing. I would want to know if something was going on with my child.