When is it time to face reality?

[seminolewind]

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Suzie, I asked him about Remicade yesterday and he has never taken it that he remembers. But he'll be having surgery now. Thanks!

 

[Suzie]

I am pleased to hear that he will have the surgery...these drugs can do untold damage to our systems...he is better off without them.

You will both have a better quality of life once he has had his surgery....

Sending love and best wishes to you both!

 

[donrae]

Prayers for a speedy recovery! You two will have your lives back in no time after he recovers. He'll be so much better mentally being able to be out and about.

 

[3goodeggs]

I am so sorry that you both are going through this.
It will be a huge adjustment, his quality of life will improve and he can enjoy it again.
Hugs to you, you are a trooper!

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Let us know how the surgery goes!

 

[lazy gardener]

Karen, I'll keep both of you in my prayers: For hubby to gain the strength and stamina, health needed to get through this surgery, and that he will see the benefit of having the surgery, that he will heal quickly and that he will see an ostomy as a plus instead of a negative in his situation. Also, for skilled surgeon's hands, knowledgeable and compassionate medical staff, and that you'll both get the rest and the help that you both so desperately need right now. Do you have a good support system in place? Don't be afraid to ask for help, and don't turn down any help. If any one approaches you and says, "If there's anything I can do, you just let me know." You can whip out your little calendar and suggest: "How about dinner next Thursday night?" or what ever else it is you might need. Some people drop that statement as a platitude, while others truly mean it, but just don't know what would be helpful. I find that when I'm offering help, I ask if I can bring a meal... then follow up with... "or is there something else that I can do that would be helpful for you right now?" That opens the door to communication about what the real needs are.

 

[seminolewind]

Thank you all for your support. Yes I do have a good support system. But I've always been okay with it. I think he'll be okay with it, his phone hasn't stopped ringing since his trip to the hospital.

Lazy, thanks for the words of wisdom. You're right, we don't take advantage of our support, and grabbing someone for dinner sounds just like the right support.

I do think our chickens are some support to him. Gives him a good reason to get out there early with treats and enjoy the feather faces.

 

[donrae]

Personally, my animals get me moving around better than anything else. I'll always find the strength to go out and just check everyone even on those days I just want to grow roots to the sofa. If I didn't have that motivation I may well not leave the house lol.

 

[seminolewind]

Rachel, you're so supportive even with your own problems. Yes chickens certainly get you out of bed, don't they. He always brings them lettuce and cookies in the morning, but hasn't. I'll have to plant him in a chair outside when he gets home. (it's 70's here).

He's back in the hospital this morning with severe weakness.

 

[lazy gardener]

Praying. Also, if you allow folks to minister to you, they also reap a blessing from that.

 

[donrae]

How's your honey doing? Out of the hospital?