Where is the love? -Open discussion for considering our actions

[Cyprus]

I agree that it os hard to read tones on the Internet.
When I made this point to someone else who was causing me trouble, their response was to continue to yell at me and be rude then proceed to tell me again and again thst they are celebrating xmas with their fam and this 'conversation is done'. A conversation I started and only I had the authority to end (a pm)
Whatever. Spend time with your family instead of trying to control what I do.

 

[RodNTN]

If you don't want to have your feelings hurt by these members, I would stay away or block these members and only hang around the ones who are trustworthy

But if you still want to spread Christmas cheer to everyone on BYC, you might just have to ignore rude or mean remarks.

 

[Brahma Chicken5000]

Definitely use the ignore button to block members who are causing you problems.

I also ignore members who just comment nonsense and whatnot

 

[Cyprus]

I don't care about having my feelings hurt.
I care that the remarks are made in the first place.
That's the point, is that they shouldn't be made. People should think before they act.

I appreciate all the discussion.

 

[Bamabexchicks]

Confident.
I found posts degrading me that I was previously unaware of. I was not quoted or tagged. Makes it hard to defend yourself when you are unaware of the problem.
They used my full username and called me a child and stupid, a liar and backstabber. And made claims that took seed all unbeknownst to me.
I would call that defamation.

Wow...that really stinks,and I feel for you. Nobody likes being singled out in a negative manner. For what it's worth I have always found you to be insightful and to the point.
I have only been on here a brief period but have already got 2 people in my ignore file. So I don't see the snarky comments if they make 'em.
It has long been my opinion that it's none of my business what others say about me behind my back. I would just put the individuals in question into your ignore file and carry on.
Knowing you are a wise and confident individual and do not require validation from anyone.
I hope you will have a Merry Christmas!
Becca

 

[townchicks]

I'm sorry to hear that there were posts attacking you personally. I have not seen that. I have seen posts that have been snarky and "my way or the highway" in tone. I do think in general, this site is kind and thoughtful. It can be hard in print to tell if someone is sarcastic or serious, so sometimes I get a little taken aback, until I find later posts that make it clear they were joking. I have seen some posts degenerate into an argument, however, and that is sad. Certainly we all can do better at keeping it clear that we are here to help, and be a community of support.

 

[HuffleClaw]

Cyprus, I’m going to have to agree with you. And I’ve gotten several peeps stored in my “ignore box”

 

[Cyprus]

Same here
Got a handful residing there. Works well.

 

[lilmillefleur]

This is really interesting. I have noticed some arguing but not as much since like others have said, I don't explore all the threads as much as others do.
I am a *very* sensitive person who does not take arguments between people very well, not to mention flaming directly at me. Specifically if these issues arose from people who I believed were friendly and caring, people who I had liked and looked up to a lot (BYC members).
I am also ashamed to say that sometimes I feel like I need to butt into an argument and 'feed the troll' even though I know I shouldn't. Fortunately I haven't done that yet and don't plan to. I do enjoy watching these 'troll feeders' however, it's very comical and interesting to spectate the pointless argument.
I would never enter an argument, however, between BYC members that I know. I see their posts often, follow them, like their content and learn from their wisdom, even look up to them...and now they are arguing with each other. It surprises and even scares me in a way.
I have not "blocked" or "ignored" anyone yet. I can't think of anyone who has been rude to me specifically, though I can think of one or two people who are just obnoxious and/or rude, most of them newbies who don't post much anyway.
Also @Cyprus for the record, I think you are one of the most mature, truthful, and especially kind people I have ever seen. I'm sure you know that, and you know that's how a lot of people here feel.

Ok sorry my ramble's over, i know i didn't really contribute, just chucking this in here, mostly for subscription purposes

 

[Cyprus]

Also @Cyprus for the record, I think you are one of the most mature, truthful, and especially kind person I have ever seen. I'm sure you know that.

Thank you! You are, too!
A merry Christmas to you!