Okay so may have seen me mention that DH is getting his Bach this month? He's 31 so it's been a LONG time coming. His elder Bro and Sis never graduated college... Bro DID graduate HS but blew off the ceremony... so MIL is really looking forward yes? So the ceremony is the 18th... Grads get 5 tix ... I do NOT know if DH needs one himself, but I'm afraid so since it specified that School ID will NOT be accepted to get in the door. Now, minimum, we would like 5 tix for FIL, MIL, Me, DS and DD... then there's DH's Sis, her hubby, her two kids... then there's DH's Bro and maybe his GF... My side, NO way am I inviting my Mom... drama queen... Uncle might cough up a lung in the middle of things... other Uncle said he and DW would love to come IF there's a spare... would love to see them, good folks who've ALWAYS loved DH... even back when we were in HS. Anywho, DH is talking to his mom tonight and she has NO idea on tickets... none. Which is weird since back in... Sept/Oct she was telling US that the number was 5 and they'd do a lotto or something for extras, if any were available, no sooner than the end of Oct. She indicated she'd be keeping an eye on that... seeing as how it's her other Son and Daughter that need tix... yeah she doesn't recall any of that... never heard of it... so that should be interesting. BIL was ranting about the stupidity of ceremonies at Thanks so I doubt he'll be all broken up if there isn't a ticket for him... but his sister, I can see her pitching a fit. OR holding a grudge for a year or three if I get to go and she doesn't... but we'll see. Moving on to the point of my WHINE... MIL mentioned that after the ceremony we could all go out for some dinner and drinks. Mind the ceremony starts at 7... if it lasts as long as DS's 6th grade one then we're looking at 2 hours minimum... putting supper at 9pm. Pretty late IMO, but given MIL's knack for NEVER being on time to anything (yes including weddings and funerals) we can't risk being at dinner when the ceremony starts... DH must be there an hour early too.... just no way. ANYWHO, she mentioned the idea of everyone (assuming she'd magically have all the tickets she wanted?) heading from the school to eat, drink and celebrate DH's hard work. She asks his opinion and he mentions a couple places thinking maybe they'd have drink specials... so LESS will be spent... that's his main concern. Mine as well, but also, after been penned in for two hours, or more, I doubt the four kids (ours and SIL's two boys) are going to be quiet and reserved .... DH's suggestion of Sherlocks is SO out... they're a PUB for pete's sake!... anywho, so I'm thinking somewhere that's really family friendly... naturally boisterous atmosphere would be a good idea... AND still enjoyable for the adults (hence Chuck E Cheese being out) so I suggested Razzoo's... cajun place... loud, but not too loud, nifty stuff to see there... great food... all four of us love it... MIL says "Oh M -SIL's hubby Mr Picky Eater of the Year- LOVES Cajun.... and of course BIL's GF is Cajun so she and he would love it... MIL says her and FIL are good with anything, it's DH's Celebration. Yeah, well... evidently not. SIL says that her little angels won't eat anything if they took them there (not that they've ever taken them there, pure speculation)... thing is though THEY DON'T EAT ANYTHING ANYWHERE... went to Logans for DH's, M's and her eldest's b-day back a bit and they wouldn't eat the food they ordered... go to McD's... won't eat the food they ordered... at home... won't eat the food she prepares... at Nana's... won't eat the food prepared... their Dad set this great example of refusing to eat anything, and SIL has totally catered to that... OY still shudder to recall when me and MIL took all four to the bowling alley... the younger SCREAMED bloody murder for an hour straight. Tried pizza, scream. Tried nachos, scream. Tried hot dog, scream. Tried ice cream, scream. And I got all the "Do something about your demon of a child" looks from other patrons... while MY kids were sitting there being decent human beings. Anywho, SIL has declared that we're all going to El Fenix... a fairly nice mexican restaurant that we've all gone to once before, years back, and no her kids didn't eat anything but chips. Rather reminds me of the last two years Thanksgivings (not this year) where SIL declared that everyone in the clan was expected to cook everything and drive it out to her house ... while WE all live in the same city... did I mention it was the first holiday since FIL's dad had died and he was forced to choose between the traditional Thanks with his entire family, honor his dad, etc and catering to her whim?? Yeah... I'm whining... it irritates the CRAP out of me that SIL just throws away ANYONE else's opinion and demands this or that and expects everyone to fall into line to cater to her and her bratty kids... worse because we ALL know that they aren't going to eat what's ordered no matter where they go... even THEIR choice they pitch a fit... so WHY are we bending over backwards, and setting ourselves up for embarrassment when all four kids get loud after 2 hours sitting in a quiet nice place... when we could go somewhere that loud is welcome and 10/12 love the food? *sigh* Did I mention that if anyone even looks at SIL wrong she'll hold a grudge for MONTHS... even years... so no one likes to cross her? Seriously... your parents are afraid of offending the CHILD by not granting each wish... while celebrating the OTHER child's achievement? I think it was INCREDIBLY rude for her to even mention it... it's HIS party, not hers... but then I'm biased... DH wants to, as usual, just cave and give her what she wants... again... and yet again have to listen to the kids whine about not wanting this... so order ANOTHER plate and then they don't want that... how is that not spending a bunch? And doing all this in a quiet place where everyone will be staring at us... I am now no longer looking forward to this day... and that sucks!