Why Are People Mean?

[jeepguy982001]

i know the feeling i used to work overnight as a security/front desk person at a timeshare resort. Its sad i would rather spend another 15 months being deployed then work retail or a customer service job again. There was always people smiling to your face then throwing you under the bus when you were gone. Just so they can get a bigger room, or some type of vouchers, etc.

 

[herfrds]

That is pretty pathic jeepguy.

There are suppose to be 2 new people starting at the end of the month. The 2 college girls are leaving. Looks like we are going to have 3 starting instead.

There has been some people coming for applications. Just going to see who gets hired. I know there was one woman that came in and talked to my bosses but I don't think she is going to be hired.
First impressions are important. She came in no make up and grubby clothes. She kept asking me about being hired. Saw her talking to my boss after I pointed them out to her.
I was asked if I knew one applicant but no I didn't.

 

[Gadsden]

Only one more troublemaker left. Boss told me they were cleaning house. When we were talking outside yesterday they told me they were glad that person was gone since they caused trouble. After they asked I mentioned that there was only one more person that should leave too. Told them why. How this person on a huge frieght day only worked on 1 aisle and only got it half way done within 3 hours while 4 of us finished the rest of the store in that same amount of time. I ended up finishing that half aisle after I got back from lunch.

If my boss had not asked I would have never mentioned it to them. The rest of us are sick of having to do the work this person pretends to do. I was just going to keep my mouth shut and continue with doing my job. Guess I'm a bt relieved that my boss asked me.

I know these 2 wanted me gone, but one of them is now gone instead.

Pretty sad when someone is trying to get someone fired because they can out work them.

" After they asked..."

Great! I too have been there - with jealous coworkers based on production. Just keep doing your best, and let them fall to the wayside.

 

[chicknfun]

The one thing I have learned in this area is that no good deed goes unpunished, even if it is you doing your best and busting your a** at work.....

My sister is always on me about having too big of a heart, in fact, the last incident ended up with her screaming at me for being stupid....I have volunteered at a private animal sanctuary for nearly 3 years that was being run by a lady I met at.....church. My husband had lost his job, and in that time had donated what we figured to be over $30,000 of his time for this lady, and I use the term lady VERY loosely.
I was driving over there every 2 hours on the days that she had to work to let her personal dogs out to go potty. Don't even ask how much money I donated to help her buy animal feed, plus we fed for her throughout those 3 years, 2 times a day, at 2 seperate properties. This person gave us all these sob stories, blah, blah, blah. Then when she sold the place, and we spent 36 straight hours moving her, we found out that she was going around saying all sorts of stuff about my hubby being a criminal, and that I never did anything that she asked me to do, etc, etc. Then today I was talking with the new owner, because I stayed on to help her get adjusted....New LADY was telling me all these terrible things that had been said to her, and she said to me, "It is obviously BS, because when I bought this place she had told me how you guys were like saviours to her, and how she would have lost it to the bank if you all had not been donating, etc."
I just busted out in tears, I have not had any kind of a life for the last 3 years because i had been doing so much for her...OK, and this is stupid, I made her house payment for a few months because she told us she couldn't buy her meds....

We live in an extremely small community, and my husband(who has a completely clear record, never been arrested, ever) has lost work because of what she has said, and it has caused other issues as well....Now I am just sooooo ******, I can't even see straight. I cannot tell you why people are mean, but they can be, for their own purposes. However, I believe that what goes around comes around, and you just have to realize that as long as you do your best and do the right thing, you dont have to worry about someones WORDS, because you have the satisfaction of knowing the truth, and the truth always wins out in the end...well usually

I haven't spoken to my sister since she screamed at me for being so stupid, but i am going to call her tonight. She was right, I was blinded by my desire to try to help when I see someone in need, and my belief that if I met someone at church they must be ok to help.
Will I put myself out there to help someone again? Probably, but with more caution, and way less investment. To not would be to change the person that I am, and that would mean she won.
Like I said, no good deed goes unpunished, and it sometimes hurts, but you can mostly never figure out WHY people do what they do

 

[chicknfun]

The way some people treat others is just unbelievable. Let's see, how does that go? "...where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice..." People that act like that must be consumed with jealousy and selfishness. For your sake, here's hoping their replacements are on the nicer side.

Very well said!!

 

[chicknfun]

i know the feeling i used to work overnight as a security/front desk person at a timeshare resort. Its sad i would rather spend another 15 months being deployed then work retail or a customer service job again. There was always people smiling to your face then throwing you under the bus when you were gone. Just so they can get a bigger room, or some type of vouchers, etc.

I'm horrified that you feel that way, but totally understand, and THANK YOU for your service to our country!!

 

[herfrds]

chicknfun that is pretty bad when you do nice things and someone dumps on you.
I'll tell you something a friend of mine said to me before he died in Feb. this year. "That is the sign of a good heart." Everytime I think about how these 2 treated me I thought of what he said and knew I was a better person then them.

Gadsden I was told by another person to complain to my bosses, but I figured it would make me look petty and it was best to just wait and it would come out.

Dewey that is why the store is known as the snake pit. Pretty darn sad because the owners are super nice people, just a couple workers think they run the store when they don't.

 

[chicknfun]

chicknfun that is pretty bad when you do nice things and someone dumps on you.
I'll tell you something a friend of mine said to me before he died in Feb. this year. "That is the sign of a good heart." Everytime I think about how these 2 treated me I thought of what he said and knew I was a better person then them.

Gadsden I was told by another person to complain to my bosses, but I figured it would make me look petty and it was best to just wait and it would come out.

Dewey that is why the store is known as the snake pit. Pretty darn sad because the owners are super nice people, just a couple workers think they run the store when they don't.

Your friend was right, just like my sister (who lived in Montana for many years...LOL)
Her words have haunted me for the last couple months since this all began. And hind sight is always 20/20 right?!! You start analyzing stuff that has happened, and realize there may have been little signs that you missed in the beginning?? That is prep for the next similar incident that comes your way

. So what i have decided is that it makes us smarter, plus it feels good when that person gets their 'come around' knowing that you didn't have to do anything but hide and watch....

 

[dewey]

Herfrds, exactly. It takes a caring heart to recognize a caring heart and to appreciate one. I bet the store owners, rightfully, view you as solid gold in having their best interest at heart. It's a rare commodity these days.

Chicknfun, that's just awful what happened.

 

[herfrds]

Ok got some more info today.
It was not the little boy I thought it was.
No idea who they were right now.
Turns out that these people came in Monday and spoke with my bosses then. Found out they also told my one co-worker who was always listening to my conversations; who of course then told everyone else.
So the snubs started all over again.

I pulled my supervisor aside and told them what happened that I remembered. They said they will point the people out to me when they came back into the store, if we are both there.
A little hard to know what was said if you don't even remember the people accusing you of it.

I gotta laugh or I would just be mad.