Why do they cheat?

Don't waste your time. Honestly, you owe him a debt of gratitude for weeding himself out of your dating pool. Who cares who she is, she likely knew about you, and is therefore just as scummy as the cheater you were with. Rise above, take it gracefully, and forget the loser. Sorry, I know it hurts, and makes you angry, but don't let it make you bitter

 

I won't say what I really think,..it may offend a few men,..I don't think men look at relationships the same as most women. They are looking for something different than we are and I think that is what drives them to cheat,...that and they are backsideholes,....

 

I agree he did you a favor.

If this is a common occurrence with you, you might want to spend some time thinking about why you choose those type of men. It took me many years to figure out that I was attracted to addicts that always put their needs ahead of mine. (My dad was that way) Knowing that you seem to attract those types allows you to start weeding them out at first signs rather than waiting for the big neon one. Be thankful that you didn't waste anymore time on him.

 

sorry you are going through this and while you are fuming right now and extremely upset just remember HE is the one to blame not her, unless of course she happens to be a friend or someone who knows he was dating you, then I would be mad at her too. I have been through this before, once too many.

Obviously he didn't respect you enough to consider your feelings, or care enough about the relationship. He is a jerk, and obviously so not the person who you should be with anyhow!!!

 

A huge hug from me to you..............

My opinion. People, especially men, seem to want what they can't have. It is about the hunt for some of them. Many of them cheat and think nothing of it, until they get caught. I know not all men are this way, thank goodness, but many are. I do know this from experience, it is hardly ever the other woman's fault, and it is NEVER your fault. The other girl/woman is not to blame, and I know exactly how you feel, (murderous) but she did you a huge favor. Maybe she will get stuck with the cheater. It took me years to realize this, so save yourself agony and let yourself be depressed, mourn your loss, then pick yourself up and march on. I tell you, keep searching and you will find a great man who would never cheat on you, but if you stick with or go back to this looser, you will never find him.

Hang in there sis, HenZ

 

With all due respect this is not the place to look for answers. You should look into counseling cuz what your going through is serious stuff. As for the other woman, I don't understand why the cheated on go after the other person. It's not going to bring them back, just show them that you are dangerous.

Please call and talk to a counselor it will help at such a difficult time. If the cheater won't go for counseling then go alone. Only then will you find the answers your looking for. I have lost more than one friend to his cheating on his wife. These types of things tear at the social fabric of our lives.

I am sorry for your trouble.

Rancher

 

Honestly..i KNOW it doesnt make it any easier..
But you ARE better off without someone like that.
I know it hurts, it kills. Try to think of it this way... in a while...(it could be 2 yrs.. or 2 months..or even 5 yrs..).. the right guy WILL find you somehow. And he'll be the RIGHT one for you.
I didnt meet my hubby until i was like 30.... trust me, i went through many heartbreaks until then. and thats why i believe today, that EVERYTHING happens for a REASON... if i had stayed with those fools... i would not have met my husband.
Keep your chin-up... dont let him see you sweat... and move on and meet someone who deserves you!! Trust me.. a cheater is the lowest of low... you dont want that type of scum in your life.

 

Sometimes they cheat because they need to feed their egos; sometimes, it's just because they don't feel special unless someone is paying attention to them. Whatever the reason, it's not your fault he cheated - but be thankful you found out now before you invested any more time in him. He will NEVER change so don't let him try to apologize with some lame excuse because it will happen again. Count your blessings, hold your head up, and look around for a guy that appreciates the person he's with and is happy to show her how much she's loved - they are out there.

 

May a man chime in here? He doesn't deserve you if he was cheating on you, best let him go and find someone that really cares for you honey.

My wife and I have been married 26 years, no cheating.