Why me? RANT

[VictoriaTwead]

So sorry you are having such a hard time. I'm sure it feels like it's never going to end. But it will, it really will. Everything passes. It will get better. Meanwhile, you tuck into something delicious and take a deep breath. Good luck, you sound like a really smart, sensible young person.

Victoria

 

[The Poultry Peanut]

 

[arabookworm]

I feel your pain. my parents went on a month long trip two years ago. my grandma was with us, but she is not in the best of health, so it was up to me to do laundry, wash dishes, cook meals, take care of my little brother, help him with his lessons (he was homeschooled, doing kindergarten), make sure my little sister did her work. and even though my older brother came home from college halfway through the month, he was almost no help. said he "didn't know how to do" the homeschooling. EXCUSE ME? YOU ARE A BIOENGINEERING MAJOR AND YOU CAN'T JUST FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS ON THE SCREEN AND READ A COUPLE OF STORIES TO HIM?

It was a long month. but it ended eventually and so will what you are going through... and it is the best abstinence education you can get

 

[Lunachick]

Awww, PK

I've been there. you aren't alone.....

 

[Ec_Prokta]

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Ok.

 

[OrpingtonManor]

When I was a kid, my mom had my sister and I do all the housework. I remember thinking it wasn't fair. But we had to do it anyway. It sounds like you have an awful lot being placed on you right now. And it isn't fair, but it's the way it has to be right now. Your mom and dad really trust you or they wouldn't be asking so much of you. Hang in there. Your brothers are little. Years from now when you are all adults, you will be surprised by how much they (and you) get along.

As for your friends, tell them what you need from them. It's probably the things they do that bugs you, not who they are. If they helped you, you might actually like them. So tell them, "I need for you to play with my brother so I can do a load of laundry." Or whatever you need. Maybe you need for them to talk nicer to you, or only do safe things in your house. Just keep telling them what you need. They get it eventually, or they'll leave you alone.

Keep being the great kid you are! And have that ice cream. It looked delicious!

 

[twentynine]

All teenagers feel as if the weight of the entire world rest on their shoulders and no one else cares.

Evidently you are no different.

Fact is, friends, brothers, family, church people, do not decide to give you a bad time. Life happens, deal with it.

Sounds rough, but as you get older, you will see that each of us are pretty much on our own, and what we get out of life depends entirely on what we put into life.

Sorry your dad is in the hospital. I just lost my mother, she died last Monday, I am sad, I am hurt, but life goes on, and I know I must play the cards I am dealt.

 

[purr]

I would get better friends.If your mom won't let you tell the ones you have now that you don't like them.Then tell them what you expect from them and if they can't handle it they'll walk.
Expand your circle of friends it sounds like mom only wants you to be friends with people of your faith but try to branch out the rest of us don't bite.
You have a lot to deal with right now and its not fair. Your brothers are young and might be acting out because you have suddenly changed roles from being big sis to caregiver. Try to make a game out of chores for the six year old.He might be easier to control if he thinks your more fun.
I did a lot of babysitting as a teenager . My sister is handicapped and 11 years younger than me. Never paid, never thanked. But I did it cause I love her. I know its hard,but they are your brothers
Hope your dad feels better soon.
Give the boys some construction paper and crayons and have them make cards for dad, it will keep them busy for a little while at least and dad will probably be thrilled.

 

[The Poultry Peanut]

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I am a teen and I don't fell like that...

 

[English Chick]

Princess..... massive hugs from EC .........

You are very young to have such a responsibility placed upon those small shoulders.... but you have been an absolute "rock" to your parents, and no doubt your parents are feeling a little guilty in leaving you to be the "matriach" of the house whilst your dad is in hospital..... you are a wonderful girl ... and I am so very proud of the tremendous effort you have made these past months due to your dad's illness.....

I think that you need to take a little time out for yourself even if it is just for a few hours (when your Grandpa arrives) ... go for a long walk... read a book quietly and alone or just take a long long bubble bath...... but get some relaxation time to yourself.

Your friends...... You have mentoned these friends on a few occasions.... but if they make you unhappy, you do not have to tolerate them ... but if you are feeling vexed towards them because of your home situation.... then do involve them, explain that you are feeling pressured and that you could do with their help. If you don't tell them how you feel they will not understand why you do feel as you do...... However if you do explain and they don't listen or want to help you, then "kick them to the kerb" because they are then not true friends..... wish I could get on a plane and come and help you

Your siblings, although much younger can help you albeit only a little.... get them involved in helping you by making "housework" or other chores a game for them, even if it is only sorting the laundry pile into different colours etc.... or collecting the eggs carefully... and helping you with the chickens..... so many times I have said it is easier and quicker to do things myself... only to find that being so organised can be a drain on your physical resources.. so try and get everyone invloved in helping you......including Grandpa when he arrives...are there no women from the church who could possibly prepare a meal for the family to help you with the cooking... if you don't ask, then generally you dont get... understand my meaning .....

One thing you can be sure of is that we are all here to offer support to you along with ice cream cookies, love and

by the zillion.............