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Just my two cents worth. I think counseling is in order, but not necessarily joint. For your own welfare you need to work through some of your own issues. Like why you are willing to be treated the way he treats you. Do you think on some level you deserve it? Do you think he will change? Do you think you can change him? Are you in love with him or are you in love with the man you wish he was? You might very well find that the person you are in love with and the person he is are not the same person. Take a legal pad and write down all the things you like about the man and your relationship. Then write down all the things you don't like about him and your relationship. You might also write down what you would like in a partner and a relationship. Ask yourself if this is how you want to be treated for the rest of your life. Once you get your head screwed on straight your heart will follow.
I can't tell you what do do, but I can tell you this. You cannot change another person no matter how hard you try. They have to do that for themselves and they will do that only if they want to. And there is probably a very good reason why his friends kicked him to the curb. Methinks he may have tried to treat them the way he treats you and they wouldn't tolerate it.
I can't tell you what do do, but I can tell you this. You cannot change another person no matter how hard you try. They have to do that for themselves and they will do that only if they want to. And there is probably a very good reason why his friends kicked him to the curb. Methinks he may have tried to treat them the way he treats you and they wouldn't tolerate it.