Whyre kids so NERVE WRACKING!?!?!?!?!

[HennysMom]

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I'm too tired to be diplomatic. Putting soap in any child's mouth is backwoods ignorant and NEVER excusable. To the OP: I'm sorry you and your son had such a rough day. Know that this certainly isn't the last time he will make you say"You did WHAT?" It's just the growth process. I found one of mine (at 4) sitting in the dog house using two week old puppies fo action figures: another one played catch with three week old kittens; then there was putting bird vitamins in his two yr old brother's eyes...

and what did you do in those situations above MamaKate?

Oyvey...soap in the mouth - I've tasted many a bar of soap in my lifetime as a child and ... I'm okay *waves to everyone* See?

Well... some would say "maybe not"

ANYHOO.....I personally didnt like that experience anytime it was done (and I would scream NO NO NOT THE SOAP!) but you'd better believe I never did it again whatever it was I did the FIRST time I got the soap. Did I still get soap? Yeah, sometimes... but for something different.

Eventually I took the hint, figured it out, and just started screaming into my pillow at my siblings and/or parents where they couldnt hear me

. I wised up

My own son last year kept calling his sister "ugly and fat" because his sister was ignoring him and wouldnt play with him..and we just dont talk that way in this house, he knew better. He was doing it to upset her and be nasty, and it worked. We warned him repeatedly to stop, put him on restriction, took things.. nothing worked. So.. DH said "if you say it again son, you're going to get hot sauce on your tongue. You want to say nasty things..you're going to taste nasty stuff." Welll.... if you knew my son... lets just say, he's a Drama Queen okay?

Sure enough.... one day... out it comes.. "you're a fat ugly..." DH and I are sitting there...and DH says "Thats it.. I'm done." and he goes and gets the hot sauce that HE eats...(tobasco), however..he also bought another bottle.. just for our DS. (keep this in mind). So we call DS down and tell him "you know you were told about being nasty and calling names, what were you told?" DS proceeds with the hot sauce on the tongue as punishment... DH says "Yep..thats correct....and its time."

Again, if you KNEW my son....you'd put a crown on his head complete with scepter

. So DS comes forward... crying and laughing because well.. he's scared to death. He sees DADS hotsauce..and he knows its pretty hot according to Dad. He's begging "Please wont do it again, promise.." NOPE... punishment time dude. Take it like a man LOL!

So... DH turns around - and grabs the other bottle thats behind him..and dips his finger into it... then opens the Tobasco and dips a different finger into that one. Tells DS to stick his tongue out... and he does... still whining mind you...with a look of sheer "OMG they're really gonna do it" on his face. DH puts the first dipped finger on his tongue... and DS goes hauling off screaming like the devil himself is chasing him... ITS HOT! MY MOUTH IS ON FIRE!! Running thru all the rooms of the house.

DH and I are hysterical on the couch...but hide it when DS comes busting thru the living room... we actually have tears we're laughing so hard, but must maintain strict composure because, it is after all.. a punishment for saying nasty things.

DS screams "I NEED MILK - I saw it on Mythbusters! MILK SISSY MILKKKK!" Need I say the laughter got worse?

and the bottle of "hot sauce" ..... was sweet

Did he ever say "you're ugly / fat" again? No..... because in his mind... he thinks he got Tobasco..and we still pull out the bottle and shake it at him..ask him if he wants some

Moral of the story... he survived and learned a lesson that no other way taught him. and... we all laughed about it, including him once it was over.

 

[shelleyd2008]

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This would be the type of attacking I am reffering to. You don't know me or my child, and how dare you sit on your high horse and call me a liar?!?!?! Why don't you go and find someone else to preach too, and get off of your soap-box??

I did not take anything out on my child, if you had read the first post you would have known that. I did not ask you or anyone else for tips on parenting or to critique mine. You know nothing about me. Please don't post on this thread again.

ETA: not like I have to justify myself to you, but here is a different thread I started back in DECEMBER about my son being put on ADHD meds.....jerk
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=114557

 

[Picky Chicky]

So many differences of opinions - so interesting.

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Tsk tsk.. name calling isn't very nice. Now then we're gonna wash your mouth out with some soap!

To be honest, I didn't turn to the soap punishment easily. We don't use potty mouth language at home in front of her but I was having problems with her repeating words she was hearing at school and on the bus (kids will be kids) - and she would do it during one of her PANDAS (not the animal) related fits - but to adults.

The soap in the mouth punishment was recommended by a few people and so I asked her (big city

) pediatrician about it. The pediatrician understood the manner in which it would be used and offered suggestions:

- Bar of soap needs to be brand new
- A few licks would probably get the job done
- Don't "grind" the soap into her teeth or use liquid soap

She said the negative health related effects could be that she might experience a loose BM afterwards, but other than that it wouldn't harm her.

Because of my DD's PANDAS condition we have to see a lot of specialists/doctors and also have specialized school plans through the school administration - which includes one county social worker and one school psychologist... I'm thinking if this method was really that bad, ignorant and backwoods - CPS would have already been notified and DD taken from me - which is something I truly worried about until I was given these answers from the professionals about the methods of discipline I have to use on my daughter.

Ultimately we've only had to use this method twice - so far. I think she's learned her lesson for now.

Just for the record, everyone is entitled to an opinion, but it's probably not good judgement to use name calling. I'd hate to see the thread get shutdown. But perhaps its time...

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You're too much Henny! I may try that (the "hot sauce" ) out on DD next time she wants to have "ugly mouth". Actually better yet, I'll threaten to ship her to Auntie Henny's house so she can take care of the people-eating chickens!

 

[Chicken Fruit]

I am pretty certain Iam going to have a permanently calloused hand by the time my kid's old enough for school from spanking his butt.

Okay seriously I dont have to spank him much anymore, but every now and again we get into some new phase of not wanting to listen to mom and dad and I swear I feel like we butt heads for a solid two or three days over the subject before I get him back on course.

God its exhausting some times.

Sounds like you're headed into another course too... lol. Good luck to ya!

 

[missourichickenmama]

I grew up with spankings, And the way my parents did it, my butt hurt less than my pride

I grew out of spankings so now it is poping my mouth, again my pride is hurt more than anything else.
Mom and dad don't use the soap-in-mouth thing here, Maybe because We (brother and I) Would not care very much(I Willingly licked soap when I was little because I wondered what it tasted like...

I did not like it very much...

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