Whyre kids so NERVE WRACKING!?!?!?!?!

[debilorrah]

I remember coming here with an issue with our teenaged kids and getting all kinds of responses that were less than helpful. Me, and I am sure the OP of this thread, just wanted to vent a little and get a hug. I am sure she is over it now, just like I can't even remember what it was I vented over.

So, Shelley

 

[shelleyd2008]

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Thanks debi, it's amazing how one little rant over my kid driving me nuts has turned into me being a terrible parent, who beats my child and lets him run wild. I haven't said anything else on this thread, because I was sure I would be getting attacked.

My son does have ADHD, and is on medication for it. Of course the medication causes him to be unable to fall asleep, so he can't take it after noon-ish. So, once he gets home from preschool he is his normal wild self again. I understand that it is hard for him to control himself, but I also understand that he is 4 (almost 5) years old, and he should be able to follow simple instructions like don't bother the mama chickens.

I have tried everything I know of with this child to try and make him listen, by taking things away, time-outs, 'butt-bustins', what-have-you. Nothing seems to work. If any of you people that act like your child is the best on the planet think you can do any better, be my guest.

As stated before, I was turning to my 'friends' over something that was very upsetting to me. I should have known better....

 

[hennypenny9]

Shelley- I know what you mean.

My story was meant to show that sometimes parents are the best they can be, and things just happen! I know the little boy in my story will be a great adult, even though at this very moment, he's probably up to mischief. And I'm sure yours will too.

 

[Bettacreek]

Shelley, I'm sorry that you were "attacked". I've noticed that sometimes our chicken family here is EXTREMELY helpful, and sometimes people take things out of context. I still post my rants... First, it's NICE to uncork your stress bottle, and second, sometimes you get some AMAZING advice. I personally was saved by the chicken family here with my son's problems, all from a silly rant about some moron not understanding what it is to be a parent. So, please, don't feel afraid to post a rant, just ignore the nay-sayers and move to the next post.

No sense in getting even more worked up over someone else's opinion, because, as they say, opinions are like (you know what), everyone has one and they all stink!

 

[EweSheep]

DD did it again! Escape from her backyard again!

 

[mamaKate]

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I'm too tired to be diplomatic. Putting soap in any child's mouth is backwoods ignorant and NEVER excusable. To the OP: I'm sorry you and your son had such a rough day. Know that this certainly isn't the last time he will make you say"You did WHAT?" It's just the growth process. I found one of mine (at 4) sitting in the dog house using two week old puppies fo action figures: another one played catch with three week old kittens; then there was putting bird vitamins in his two yr old brother's eyes...

 

[shelleyd2008]

I think part of my son's 'problem' is that he wants to help so much, and he is at that 'independant' stage. Today, after being told repeatedly yesterday (and every other day for that matter), to stay out of the barn, where did I find him? Running out of the barn!

He was checking for eggs, which is his 'job', but he knows he is not to do it by himself, for fear that he will hurt himself climbing on things, terrorize mama hens or broodies, or let the quail or penned chickens out of their cages when getting their eggs. Every day he is told to stay out of there, and every day he is found in there. All he has to do is ask me or my dad to go with him, and there would be no problem. But he wants to do it all himself.

I have a brooder full of chicks that don't have mamas, and have told him many times that he is welcome to get them whenever he wants to. I guess it is just the thrill of the forbidden that drives him. He doesn't want to mess with the ones he is allowed to, he wants the ones that are off-limits. Thus is the nature of little boys, imo, and nothing I do is going to change that any time soon.

 

[redhen]

Shelley, i am so sorry you were attacked!

you are right your son IS old enough to understand!...it IS right of you to expect him to listen to you at his age. also..never let his ADHD be an excuse for him not to following your rules...*i know you are not doing this!...but i deal with these kids every day, and i see the results when parents do this...* people that say .."
ooh, its not his fault, he cant help himself..." UGH!!!!

that gets me SO upset!!... those people are doing their children a BIG disservice,IMO!....you need to teach your kids right from wrong....they need to listen to you when you speak.(and yes...even at 4 yrs old!!)...or god forbid when they get older!!...then they come to MY house where i do foster care for high-risk teens...teens that never learned to respect authority..teens that think they can do what they want...teens that end up in lock-up. so..i say...keep expecting your son to follow your rules! Dont settle for less! Thats the worst thing you can EVER do to him! ... you are being a VERY good parent Shelley!

 

[HennysMom]

shelly

You're a great Mom... and dont forget it... ever.

 

[jubylives]

Attacked?? Are you serious? As for my comments I just pointed out that the child nor the chicken was at fault. This is on you. You put something out like that then when the comments are not to your liking, all of a sudden there are "issues" with the child. If your child actually does suffer from a behaviour issue I can understand that but you only mention that when not everyone circles the wagons and it becomes a hug fest. You are at fault for this. If the chickens were killed by an animal getting in there then people woud tell you that you need to make sure you have them more secure and would give you ideas on how to do just that.

I have not nor am I calling you a bad parent. I will say that you did not have your chickens secure and if a 4 year can get in there it is not secure and if he does he does need it explained to him it is not where he is allowed and make it that he can not get in there. If you do not make the change and he still gets in there then you are still at fault and it should not be taken out on the child.

jeremy