Whyre kids so NERVE WRACKING!?!?!?!?!

[Julie08]

I was just asking, is all.

Thought if it worked I might try it on my own bundle of joy!

 

[yodercountrygirl]

"butt busting" does work if done in the proper way. We started with our kids when they "know" better.(right around a year old) You can see the look in their face when you tell them "NO" and then they do it, then it is time for a "learning experience"( just a couple swats). I defenately don't believe in child abuse, but a good "butt busting" never hurt a child in the long run.

I hope nobody misunderstands. All children get on everybody's nerves, it a human thing. Mine do it all the time. It is a never ending learning process for everyone involved.

 

[hennypenny9]

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I remember the couple times I got a spanking. It was the shock of it, more than anything. It didn't really hurt. Just was so surprising. It was always well well deserved, so I think it done right. But don't tell my parents, LOL.

 

[agnes_day]

totally kidding before, but butt busting works great for us!

 

[antiquebuff]

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Well Said!
Spare the rod, spoil the child! I do think children appreciate boundaries, like someone posted a few post back. It makes for a more calm environment.

 

[beak]

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I have 5 adopted kids that are ADD due to alcohol abuse by their bio mothers and the resulting fetal alcohol syndrome. ADD is real, not all children diagnosed have it, but it is real. So you noticed that spanking doesn't work. That's my experience. It does teach children to solve their problems with violence though. To each his own. IMHO spanking is just a way for some parents to let off steam at the frustration caused by their kid. There are much more effective methods. Parenting classes are a good start. Just because your parents did it and you turned out right doesn't mean it's the best way. I have 3 adult children that were not spanked that are all very successful. So my kids didn't get spoiled by not getting their butts busted. What a bad name,sounds like something they would do in prison.

JMO

 

[b.hromada]

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Well Said!
Spare the rod, spoil the child! I do think children appreciate boundaries, like someone posted a few post back. It makes for a more calm environment.

when I was a new mom, my mother told me that children look for discipline. They will get out of control, and keep trying you, until you put a stop to it. They actually want boundaries like you said. Without them, they feel that you really don't care, so hey, do what ever you want, and I won't consequent you for it. She was so right, I've seen it many many times. With my own kids and other peoples kids as well. Please don't misunderstand what I'm saying, don't brutalize the child. A few swats on the rump should do it. I'm certainly not worse for the ware, as I'm sure most of us on here aren't either. I believe I got what was coming to me.
My parents were the best, and am I ever thankful for how the raised me.

 

[agnes_day]

for thousands of years, parents have spanked their children and society has flourished for the most part..but all of a sudden, its the wrong thing to do. note that since people have been reluctant to spank their kids, or even tell them no..kids have become out of control monsters that shoot their classmates, kill their parents, their friends..at the very least acting like spoiled, entitled brats. spanking isnt the only way to discipline but its a far sight better than this ridiculous parents as friends approach that has been popular for the past 20 years.
i remember high school back in the early 90s, and you didnt see the lack of respect, and the dangerous activity that you see now and its because a lot of parents are relinquishing their duties on the grounds of being their childs friend, or from pure selfishness and laziness.

 

[beak]

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Your spot on with that one. Spanking is actually lazier than what needs to be done. Most parents are not consistent. Time outs are actually quite effective, but they have to be dome consistently. My parents used to spank. One day my Dad gave me the choice of a spanking or being grounded for a week. I took the spanking. After that I never got spanked again. Some parents just don't care and it is more prevalent now. More families have both parents out of the house at jobs to make ends meet. Family dinners are less of an occurrence. It's not because kids don't get spanked. It's because parents don't parent

Our 6 year old had a natural tendency to want to chase the birds around. We show her the proper way to teat them and explain that they will like her better if she doesn't chase them. Then we control her while she's with us. Now she loves to take care of the birds and pet them. No more chasing. No we never bust her butt.

 

[warmfuzzies]

I guess the biggest no-no with spanking, and disciplining in general, is if you do it out of anger, you blew it. Kids dont listen if they think you are using them as a scapegoat. I found out this one! If you yell, they stop listening. Mine do anyway.

It is hard, but it has to be, "you broke the rules, you knew you were going to get punished." Not "You stupid kid! What is wrong with you???" *smack smack smack* ( on whatever random body parts are in the way)

There is a huge difference, and one will work and one won't.