Ms.FuzzyButts :
I would be offended. They should have contacted you first. It is nice that they are doing something for them, but they should have thought to include you and any plans your family may have had.
I agree. I would have been greatly offended and in need of an explanation. If it's YOUR daughter, you should have some say in it. They shouldn't just decide on it and go for it when it's not ONLY their son.
And for your daughter, I would think that getting married before you even graduate is not the right thing to do. Let her know that just because you love someone doesn't mean you NEED to marry them at that moment, especially in her case. Tell her it's best to wait a while until they are both financially and maturely ready for such a huge commitment. If she's still in high school, that's a bit young to be getting married in my opinion. And if she really wants it to be successful and really cares about having a good marriage, it's not a great idea to get married before she even graduates or has a job...or a house. They both need to be ready for it and can't just jump in and expect everything to go fine because it won't work. I'm sorry if I sound a bit harsh and I know I've obviously never had experience with this, but this is what I know and think about it.
Getting married is an exciting and wonderful thing, but trust me, if they both wait until they are sure about it, they will most likely be much happier and successful in the end. There's nothing wrong with waiting. They can still be together and love each other without getting married. They can get engaged and then wait until they graduate college (if they plan on going to college) and until they are financially ready and have a job to support both of them together.
Remember to give both your daughter, the boy and his family support and help out any way you can. Talk to them all about it and figure out a solution that is best for everyone.
Hope this helps and good luck!
I would be offended. They should have contacted you first. It is nice that they are doing something for them, but they should have thought to include you and any plans your family may have had.
I agree. I would have been greatly offended and in need of an explanation. If it's YOUR daughter, you should have some say in it. They shouldn't just decide on it and go for it when it's not ONLY their son.
Remember to give both your daughter, the boy and his family support and help out any way you can. Talk to them all about it and figure out a solution that is best for everyone.
Hope this helps and good luck!
