Would you be offended.

[dichotomymom]

I was engaged at 18 and my Dad was the one who threw a fit. I saw the light and we called it off! I was angry at him then but love him for it in hindsight!

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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That's just it...it DOES matter and I have poured my heart and soul into these kids for 8 years and well...I'm just getting the shaft every which way. It just pisses me off!!!

Cindi..Thats what the problem is...
your DH dosent seem to care about how YOU feel about the whole thing...
thats very wrong... and i'm sorry.

Yeah, for all the years their real mother has been gone and not even called I have been told YOU are their mom. I raised them by myself while he worked out of town, done everything including discipline, which I have been told I didn't do a good job on, and now this. Yeah....I'm mom. Right. Guess I should've backed off a long time ago and not invested so much of myself. It still sucks.

 

[PurpleChicken]

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Cindi..Thats what the problem is...
your DH dosent seem to care about how YOU feel about the whole thing...
thats very wrong... and i'm sorry.

Yeah, for all the years their real mother has been gone and not even called I have been told YOU are their mom. I raised them by myself while he worked out of town, done everything including discipline, which I have been told I didn't do a good job on, and now this. Yeah....I'm mom. Right. Guess I should've backed off a long time ago and not invested so much of myself. It still sucks.

Some day down the road when they grow up they are going to love you for it. That I'm sure of. Right now they are teens and so is hubby. This too shall pass.

 

[sfw2]

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, and that you seem to be the last bastion of sanity in your household. We love ya!

 

[mom'sfolly]

Cindy,

I think the homeschool ought to stop now. That girl needs a taste of real life, and public school. Why should you put yourself out for her education if she is willing to get married before she is even finished with school? This YOU can do. It is completely your thing. If dh thinks them being married is okay, then him teaching her or sending her off to public school is okay too. No need to go to any extra effort on your part, and then when she's in public school there is no reason for her to live in your home with her new hubby. She can live with his parents and figure life out on her own, since that is what she wants. Obviously, your opinion doesn't matter, so why should your teaching.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

Thanks ya'll for letting me do my psycho vent

I'm gonna be crazy too before it's over! I hope 5 years from now it will all be okay. Right now just bites. Thanks for listening. I love BYC!!!!

all around

 

[Cindiloohoo]

mom'sfolly :

Cindy,

I think the homeschool ought to stop now. That girl needs a taste of real life, and public school. Why should you put yourself out for her education if she is willing to get married before she is even finished with school? This YOU can do. It is completely your thing. If dh thinks them being married is okay, then him teaching her or sending her off to public school is okay too. No need to go to any extra effort on your part, and then when she's in public school there is no reason for her to live in your home with her new hubby. She can live with his parents and figure life out on her own, since that is what she wants. Obviously, your opinion doesn't matter, so why should your teaching.

THANKFULLY it's just a couple months. I love her too much to jeopardize her education over this stupid decision. When she is done with school she will have to get a job and contribute enough for them to stay, or they will leave. If daddy doesn't like it then he can leave...yes I will kick him out his own house!! I've had enough, and this is all I am taking from them. I love this bunch of idiots too much, that's the problem...lol!​

 

[redhen]

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Cindi..Thats what the problem is...
your DH dosent seem to care about how YOU feel about the whole thing...
thats very wrong... and i'm sorry.

Yeah, for all the years their real mother has been gone and not even called I have been told YOU are their mom. I raised them by myself while he worked out of town, done everything including discipline, which I have been told I didn't do a good job on, and now this. Yeah....I'm mom. Right. Guess I should've backed off a long time ago and not invested so much of myself. It still sucks.

I'd be hurt too Cindi...

 

[mychickensrock]

Oh my! I am so incredibly sorry that you are going through all of this. I'm even more sorry that you and your husband are not on the same page. This sucks for sure! I don't have any great advice or words of wisdom, just

for you and

for the rest of them!

 

[Boyd]

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I was on my way to detroit to see what trouble I could cause but I was recalled

Cindy - She lives in your house. Simple. Somebody needs to put their foot down. If your husband won't support you when you are this passionate about it, well I would question that relationship too

sorry JMHO