Am I being unreasonable?

[DuckLady]

When my husband tells me he is hungry and I am in the middle of doing something, I point to the kitchen and tell him "don't forget to clean up after yourself." Serving him a jar of babyfood and a sippy cup with milk in it gets the point across, too.

 

[HarlansHollowFarms]

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thankfully, my DH would never even consider doing that to me, he would however, be in the kitchen fixing US a bite!

 

[kla37]

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Mine didn't appreciate that kind of sarcasm, and I didn't appreciate servitude, so I got rid of mine.

 

[Slinkytoys]

Sounds like you have spoiled your husband. Of course it's easier for him to order you around AND do as he pleases in the garden, why ever not since he has NO consequences. "What are you gonna do about it" is their general reasoning. Sheesh. Time to put your foot down, but don't expect him to listen to you. Why should he, since you don't count? Sorry if I sound unfeeling, but most of us have been there. Try sitting down with him and explain your feelings /ideas. Make sure he understands, then if he ignores you then you know where you stand in this relationship. I'm sure if he disses you in this, he does so in other areas of your marriage.
IF he does listen, make sure he gets a LOT of "atta-boys". Men do well with pats on the back and recognition. Funny how that works.......
Slinky

 

[DuckLady]

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Mine didn't appreciate that kind of sarcasm, and I didn't appreciate servitude, so I got rid of mine.

Luckily mine appreciates my brand of humor and I appreciate him period.

 

[Amyable]

My DH just read the OP's post and commented that it sounds more like a marriage problem and less of a garden problem. I, too, would be irate, because not only is your garden compromised, but your husband obviously has complete disregard for your wishes.

I would dispose of all the RoundUp before he does it again. Explain to him that organic food sells at a higher price, and he has just blown it by putting poison all over your garden.

Terrie, the baby food and sippy is a great idea! If he doesn't like that, say "If you insist I make you dinner when I'm working, you get baby food. If you don't want that, go make yourself a PB&J."

 

[rancher hicks]

Ya know what really frosts me about these types of postings? It isn't that the DH or (rarely posted and I'm sure does happen) DW did what they did, ITS THE DISRESPECT, for the spouse that inspires such actions.
It really doesn't matter that he used chemicals, it's that he showed disrespect by ignoring your request and wishes.
So what to do?
1. Leave the gardening and selling to him.

2. Go to counseling to find ways to vent your frustration in being married to someone who has no repect for you, whether your a man or woman.

This is physical abuse with out the "physical" part and a passive aggressive action and just as damaging to your marriage.


Or you could just serve him dinner and when he says it tastes funny tell him that since he likes Round Up so much you decided to "season" his food with it. I'd vote for aqquital, seriously.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

My DH likes to spray Miracle grow, and it makes me SO mad. He put some around our little cherry tree, and I almost bit his head off. if he EVER tried anything like round up, he'd likely wake up the next morning with roundup sprayed on all his food, clothes and in his car... not that I'm advocating poisoning anybody, but seriously, What was he THINKING?

 

[cassie]

Just a few comments. The Round Up won't hurt you. It is absorbed by the plant through the leaves. I don't think it sticks around. If you have any questions about residues or toxicity, contact the company.

You might invest in the book, THE SQUARE FOOT GARDEN. Get the new edition. It tells how to grow a lot of produce in a small area with very few weeds and minimal labor.

Your garden is the least of your problems. Your husband neither respects nor values you and he is making sure you know that. In all the years of our marriage my husband never once interrupted me when I was in the middle of something to demand that I stop and fix him something to eat. If he was hungry and it was obvious it would be a while before lunch or dinner would be on the table, he made himself a sandwich or whatever.

 

[Bunnylady]

My husband and I are in the green industry (that's green as in landscape, rather than green as in taking care of mother earth). Hubby has a running gag, whenever someone has a problem in the yard, he'll say, "I have a chemical for that!" It's a joke, because we try to keep the chemical use to a minimum. We will explore all possible options before reaching for the sprayer, because we have a great deal of respect for what these chemicals can do. Just because you don't need a license to purchase or apply it, doesn't mean it's completely harmless.

I'm sorry, but the OP's husband sounds like my FIL. He knew what was best, never mind the label. (FIL put himself in the hospital once, self-medicating with aspirin to prevent a heart attack). Roundup does not belong in a garden. It can move through the soil, destroying the roots of the non-target plants you were trying to grow. During hot weather, it can vaporise, and damage the foliage of nearby plants that it wasn't sprayed on. If sprayed on plants that are drought stressed, it will be poorly absorbed, most likely damaging but not killing.