Am I getting crotchity and OLD?

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I don't drink and I don't hang out with people who do. You have a right to chose your friends based on your own lifestyle.

 

[sonew123]

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I wouldnt call it stick in the mud I would say grown up Thats wat my problem was I was just starting my family and that friend came over and went to light up pot in MY house..I just about died and said um not in my house go outside if you want to do that-she said what? DOnt tell me you dont do that anymore? I was like um not in 10 years! and I never smoked cigarettes in my houses either. AT the time I was 24 holding my little DD and then she went to light up a cigg in my kitchen-That was it for me and immaturity. She left within minutes and I didnt care seeing her ten years later was still to soon!

LOL well heck I am 35... I hope I am a grown up.. this woman I am speaking of is 37 and her DH is 43.. so you would have thought they matured a while ago

Im only 38-she was 2 yrs older than me-and she is still the same way just worse! goodbuy sista friend!

 

[fancbrd4me02]

Sometimes the best thing you can do for your own sanity, and for your friends is cut ties. I had a friend years ago who was being very self destructive. She was depressed and drinking heavily. Her behavior progressively got worse, and it became apparent that she was getting a lot of satisfaction from her lifestyle. I cut ties with her and told her never to contact me again until she had been sober and in a program for at least a year. She initially tried to reestablish our friendship, but I would always ask her if she was sober and if she would give me the number of her sponsor. She never could, and I would hang up on her. Years passed, she got her act together. We are friends again. She said when I stopped being her friend, it was one of the things that made her want to be sober.

 

[EweSheep]

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Me too! I do NOT like people that say I HAVE to drink to HAVE FUN! Bullllllllllll! When they start drinking, my hubby and I said see you in the morning LOL!

 

[Davaroo]

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Over reacting? Being a snob? None of this affects you?

Honey, it is YOU who these people need. This is a person whom you've shared a life with. There are some serious issues going on here and no one is doing anything about it - least of all you. This is the stuff that makes the news when someone dies.
Ever heard of a thing called works of mercy, as in helping those who cant help themselves? It extends to more than sending a few bucks to the missions in Latin America.
These people need help and you see it. So do something, anything.

The spirit has led you here to ask, so there you go.

 

[Sunny the Hippie Chick]

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Thats called tough love. Some times it has to be done.

To the OP I would cut ties and maybe this friend will get the point then.

I dont have many friends. The reason is all the people my age only want to drink and party and let their kids run wild un watched. Im not that way. So I am not friends with any of the people my age in the area. Its hard to break ties with friends, but some times it has to be done

 

[debilorrah]

Darlene, if you don't sever ties with her, a day will come when her behavior directly affects you. You know in your heart what you need to do.

 

[ebwy]

not only would I be thinking I needed to be free of them, I'd be turning them in for making their daughter drive them illegally.
there are things that are complete dealbreakers for me, and I'd turn my own family in rather than let them do that (luckily, they don't)

 

[Dar]

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I thought about this... but right now its my word against theirs and if the police start poking in they will know somethings up.. so unfortunately they need to get caught on their own.

I have told the DD that if at any time she is feeling overwhelmed and wants me to make sure they get home safe I am just a phone call away.. but DD thinks its "cool" mom and dad let her drive so much.

She has her appointment for her G2 License which will mean she no longer need a licensed driver in the vehicle with her but she will still have rules to follow. Because I am certified driver examiner with the province I went there today to help her, give her pointers and see if she is ready to take the real test.... and sadly she is not. but they need to understand that she is not ready and when I tried to tell them this they said I was being over cautious and she's ready... thankfully she will not be taking the exam at my location so it will have nothing to do with me

 

[ebwy]

you don't have to give your real name, just be a concerned neighbour next time you know they're out...
if they do get caught and it comes out that you knew about it, could it affect your job?