You need to remain the one person that demonstrates maturity and class. So this isn't the first time that your spouse has strayed....hmmmm, it does change things a bit. I would think that HE would be the one to refuse since HE is the offender and HE should be scrambling big time to show his allegiance to you. That he doesn't offer himself shows that he really isn't too different from his sister. They don't care about your feelings. People are going to be watching YOU, not "R" and not the bride.
Keep in mind that these family stories never go away. People will be talking about this for years. When your children hear the story you want them to be thinking 'Mom sure handled herself with class. I'm proud of her.' Don't let that lowlife family make you stoop to their level.
IF they have arranged for your husband to be paired up with "R" then it shows truly how insensitive and cruel your SIL is. I would be done with her from there on out. A person can only be expected to take so much and that would be going too far. Your husband sounds very insecure. He also lacks a backbone when it comes to his family. If you don't want them talking to you ever again then just don't show up on that day. Really, your SIL doesn't deserve anything else.
Keep in mind that these family stories never go away. People will be talking about this for years. When your children hear the story you want them to be thinking 'Mom sure handled herself with class. I'm proud of her.' Don't let that lowlife family make you stoop to their level.
IF they have arranged for your husband to be paired up with "R" then it shows truly how insensitive and cruel your SIL is. I would be done with her from there on out. A person can only be expected to take so much and that would be going too far. Your husband sounds very insecure. He also lacks a backbone when it comes to his family. If you don't want them talking to you ever again then just don't show up on that day. Really, your SIL doesn't deserve anything else.