Anybody have advice for Couples Trying to Conceive.

[georgialee]

I haven't read the other posts, so bear with me if someone already said this... I would start keeping track of your cycles by taking your basal body temp. every morning. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great book that explains everything (I acutally have a copy if you want it - just pm me). Fertilityfriend.com offers free charting. Also try using pre-seed (won't explain it here - look it up, lol!). Another thing is to get a bunch of ovulation tests from ebay or another place that sells them cheap. Hope you get preggers quickly!

 

[Blue Skys]

I'll pm you.

 

[bheila]

I conceived my first child after trying for 3 years. I went on the pill for a month missed a couple pills and oops I got pregnant. It took me 4 years to get pregnant the second time then 4 years to get pregnant the third time. We never tried any fertility drugs or tried ovulations kits. I figured if it was meant to be then it will happen. I also knew that if I never had children then God would fill that empty hole with something else.

 

[Sammysmom]

There is a lot of good advice that has already been given. I, too, have been in your shoes. Oh, the pain of seeing pregnant women and women with infants. It was like a knife in the heart! I tried everything. I tracked my cycles, went on Clomid, took hormone injections and I even tried drinking Damiana tea(supposed to help with conception?). During 15 years of marriage I suffered through four miscarriages and a tubal pregnancy. The only time I ever used birth control was when I was healing from a miscarriage. I finally decided enough! DH and I made plans to move. We bought 40 acres and started building our home. Then I found myself pregnant again. This one felt different. I sailed through the pregnancy and gave birth to our miracle baby two weeks before I turned forty. Since Sam was born, I have had two more miscarriages. Only God knows why things happen the way they do. My advice: Rule out any physical or genetic reasons first then, have faith, relax and it will happen.



P.S. No doctor could ever give me a reason as to why I had all those miscarriages.

 

[kelseygirl707]

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Wow, I am actually printing this for myself, it really made me feel better to see that someone else feels exactly as I do!

I am so Tired of being told I'm Young, and I have plenty of time. Yes I am Young, but I can honestly say I am not like your average 22 year old. I have never been to a crazy party, I don't drink more than a glass of wine, or a magarita with dinner about 3 times a year. I have never tried ANY illegal drugs. In fact I have been told all my life that I was born 20+ years late, as I prefer the company of people my parents age to people my own age. I have Known all my life that all I wanted was to be a mommy, yes I know it will be hard, and that I will wonder sometimes "What did I get myself into", but Right now I would give anything to have a reason to have that thought.

Thank you all for your words of Comfort, I have ready every post, and I appriciate the advice. I wil try to relax, but It will be a while before I can just stop trying.

 

[Sammysmom]

Don't listen to people who say you are too young. I got that comment, too. I got comments as to why I didn't pursue my career more agressively, etc. What job could possibly be more important and rewarding than creating and raising a human being?


I know relaxing is easier said than done. I trained myself to concentrate on other interests but, trying to conceive was always there, lurking, in the back of my mind! Seriously, I always knew what day of my cycle I was on and what days were optimum for conception. Actually, I still do! Seems it's a hard habit to break!

ETA: If I had listened to other people, DH would have had a vasectomy years ago and I wouldn't have my beautiful boy!

 

[farmerlor]

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Actually Tala, if you're seriously considering adoption you can adopt a child through social services for free or very, very little. We've adopted five children from social services. Yes, they all have special needs but that's simply because those are the kinds of children we were fostering. No, you don't have to foster to adopt but foster parents usually get right of first refusal for the children they foster if they become available. No, they're not all older children. We got Winnie when she was 2, Rissa at 5 weeks, DJ and Anni at birth and Mikey at 10 months.

 

[Tala]

Wow motherof5boys1girl, I really really loved your post. Every word of it is so true.

What happens is when someone complains about being infertile, all I ever receive is JUDGMENT. Just on this thread people who don't even know me or anything about me are telling me I'm young, that I should "get over it" and that my life isn't stable enough to raise a baby!!!

WHO ARE YOU to judge me, my life, and my responsibility level??

Choosing to have kids, or not to, is a very personal decision between two people, yet for some reason everyone thinks it is their business to judge.

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

lets see.
Several miscarriages with the x dh.
Went to tracking my cycles. Was told I would need "help" to get and stay pregnant.

Pregnant not two months later. I have my miracle baby, well now she is 6 and doesnt like being called the baby.

My sister was on BCP from the time she was a teen. She and her dh got married in July 07. They had my niece the beginning of March. She thought they would have to "try" longer.

It will happen if and when it is meant to.

BTW. You NEVER have enough money to have a child. If that were a
prerequisite only the TRULY rich would ever have kids. And event then it would be hard financially.

 

[mom wewantchicks!]

AMEN to all the post telling you not to worry. i had myself so stressed after my first misscarriage that i went on to have 2 more. when we finally decided that the one daughter we had would be enough and went on with our lives,i was pregnant LOL. well i was so very careful with that pregnancy.13 months after my wonderful son was born i was preggo again, i didnt have time to worry about it LOL. so baby number 3 came along just fine and our lives where complete. good luck,stop worrying and have fun,your making a baby for gods sake,practice makes perfect