Anyone experienced dead bodies?Update photos/home #149

[EweSheep]

I am not afraid of death but afraid of how people react to it. Either people are accepting of death or just grief stricken so bad that they would curl up in a ball and just so depressing.

 

[JetBlack]

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It's terrible to see someone afraid of death. When I was 13, I was diagnosed with Type I Diabetes. This was in the 1970's. My family doc told me that unless you get hit by a bus, diabetics die of diabetes. At age 13, I had to come to grips with the reality, that someday, I would be lying in a bed, aware that I am breathing my last breaths. I thought and thought about it. Now I realize that death only affects the living. The dead person is looking down on you, wondering why you could possibly be weeping for them? They are now *perfect* and content. Misery, depression, anger? All come from glands. Not spirit. When you are dead, you can't have those things. Grief is for the living. We miss the deceased. We miss their goods and their bads but we miss their presence and we feel their absence.

While it's normal to grieve, it's also silly.

Not that that stops us.

 

[arabianequine]

I work in health care so yeah I have seen several and I cried the first person I seen dead but I kinda got use to it. It is kinda scary/creepy actually depending circumstances. I am more upset to people I am attached too naturally.

 

[justbugged]

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No I really don't know. It seems to be rather random. An African American guy was totally white, and an Indian woman was pink, a white guy was black. Soooo odd. And to think I will never know what color I am. I hope I am pink.

I have never looked at the ashes of my daughter, but now I am curious as all get out. It is a bit of a long story as to why I still have Kaitlyn's ashes after 23 years, but I feel that more than enough time has past that I just may need to know now. I was told from a doctor that reads auras that i have a muddy red aura that surrounds me. From what I have read it is better to have a white or purplish aura. I wonder if it is related.

 

[justbugged]

I held my daughter as she died. My mother and Sister were there. I was also there at the moment my grandmother died. Both times my mother took over and claimed that she was the one who witnessed the actual death, but I know what I saw and I know that for me it was a moment that was part of. We held my daughters body for more than an hour maybe more. We waited for my husband to come. He was called off of a job. We finally let her go hours after she had died. It just seemed right at the time. I knew before she was even born that we would not have her long. I was blessed to have her longer than I anticipated. I was so grateful that she lived long enough to allow me the time to grieve her passing, before it actually happened.

 

[EweSheep]

I hope I would never come to that decision if anything happens to my daughter, who is now 6 years old. I'd rather pass on before she does.

As for you saving your daughter's ashes, there WILL be the RIGHT time for you to decide what to do with her ashes. Either you can bury her with you or combine ashes with your daughter....but only you can decide that.

 

[justbugged]

Yes what you are saying is so true. I thought about spreading her ashes the anniversary of her 21st death, but came to the realization that for all the things that I had wanted to do with them over the years that I am not ready to take them to the most spiritual place in the world and leave her there with me so far away. I have a beach on the Washington coast that is very special to me, and holds a place in my heart.

Maybe it is just the anger at my parents for not giving me the legal right to place her ashes with my grandmother that stops me too. I think that is the dumbest reason to hold on to the ashes of all. But I feel that a simple respect or courtesy has been denied to my daughter and I. I was the primary caregiver to my grandmother after she had a stroke. I gave up my late teen years to help my parent s care for my grandmother. I don't want my parents to pay for anything as much as simple sign over the rights to my grandmother's burial plot. If I even thought that they intended to use it another way, I wouldn't even ask. But I have learned to not ask anymore.

Things are okay the way they are. Forgiveness is a very calming peaceful thing. At some point I feel like I have grown up and I know that I had to keep moving on for my living children. I feel blessed in a way to share part of my soul to others. Someone else mentioned that talking about it helps. We have so few ways to talk about it in our society. Early on I learned that no one really wanted to hear about my losing a child. It scares people that it may happen to them, and it’s almost like you are contagious. I for some reason was blown away that some people can be that shallow in their thinking.

Death is part of the human existence; nobody has ever gotten out live. All of us will die when it is our time. I am at peace with that thought. I am more than willing to find out what happens next, even if it is nothing then what will care. I have done my job, and done it well. At this point I have no regrets. Death would be a relief from the pain at this point. Otherwise I can still think of a lot of things that I would like to do, and accomplish.

I don't think that we have much of choice over our time of death. I feel that when it's time then it's time. I know though that we should be more connected in life, It is very sad to know that someone died without much notice, and so few cared. Your neighbor committed a slow suicide right across the street from you, and everyone was helpless to prevent it. I can only think about how much pain he must have been in to hate himself that much. I am sorry that you had to witness such an event.

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[seismic wonder2]

I've found 7.
3 self inflicted, 2 car accidents, 1 old age, 1 drowning.


Grand Mom tells me I'm a "finder" and that her brother was one.

 

[EweSheep]

I could imagine what anger you had toward your parents regarding to your daughter......would it be possible to do it AFTER their deaths???? That is one way of looking at it.

If I wanted to be sneaky, I would have scattered her ashes over their graves, alone with your daughter and grandparents in heaven. No one needs to know but be sure if it is legal for the cemetary to do so.

Seismic Wonder, just too much deaths.....but be blessed you are the "finder" of things, not only in death but other things as well!

 

[justbugged]

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I think that there is a lot to what your Grand mom says. My DD has done a chart on me that says that death is a large part of my life.