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Yeah, not being able to find clothes that make you feel womanly and beautiful really sucks.
Someone told me the other day "If you didn't have swimmer's shoulders you'd have the body of a boy".... and it's like... wow, thanks? Last I checked the stuff between my legs made it so I didn't have the body of the boy. Oh yeah, that and the things I use to get free drinks at bars. But then I look in the mirror sometimes with the clothes in the shops and.... size 6 is a size 0 (it says size 2 online but it is SO not, vanity sizes have changed) and sometimes I don't fit into it. I have to ask for a 4. They usually don't have it. I'm lucky if they have a 6. Sometimes... embarassingly... I have to shop at little girls' shops. Do you know how humiliating it can be to figure out what clothing size you are in teenager? I'm sure you do.
Thank you SO MUCH for that!! It feels good to get support and kindness somewhere.
My DH ALWAYS takes awful photos of me. He doesn't understand angles at all. Even he can make ME look fat, so don't get put stock into the photos husbands take. They are notorious for being terrible at that.
Chocolate IS good for you! I have a piece of 75% covoteur truffle every night. My husband brought them for me from his trip to Melbourne. Good husband.
Just get good dark rich men...chocolate... sorry.. what? Just get good dark rich chocolate and it's REALLY filling for your needs. One square should melt away at the end of the night like a happy little day dream. It's how I used to treat myself when I was heavy into fitness.
Yes I do know what its like to look for clothes in the childrens stores. - My sister is 4 foot 8 inches and very tiny. She would always shop at Mothercare and they did clothes up to age 10yrs. Its all she could get to fit her. I was a bit bigger and got clothes in teenage sizes. - She was happy because she didn;t get Taxed on clothes for kids and was shopping in those stores for years!!!!!! Yes its embarassing and folk say awful stuff. My mother used to say I should shop at the outsize store! As a kid I never realised what she meant but cause my sister was so tiny my mother always made me out to be really FAT but in reality I was only 9 and a half stone. I think that kind of stuff started my balleamia off. As a teenager of 17 yrs I dropped from 9 and a half stone down to 6 in 3 weeks would you believe. Yes it was hard to get clothes to fit me. I had the last laugh though when a policeman found my sister in town and threw her in his police car and took her "back to school" - he was sure she was supposed to be at school cause she was so tiny. Infact she was 19 yrs old and was on her lunch break from her work!!!!! NOw that is embarassing!!!!
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Awww
. I'm so sorry your mother pointed out your "faults" out like that. It's not fair when other people need to make themselves feel better by hurting others. You don't know a thing about the person you're mocking, most of the time, you don't know how they cry behind closed doors at your words. If nobody has hurt you, why hurt them? Emotionally or otherwise? I simply don't understand people's motivations to say the things they do - nobody fat nor thin deserves it. Nobody deserves to have a very personal thing, their body, criticised and judged publicly by society.
My mother and I were in the car and she said to me "Look how fat that woman is! She looks proud too!" and I got angry, I said, "Good for her! It's about time a woman of that size is proud of herself and thinks she's beautiful." My mother was upset, "You'd think she'd at least care enough to lose weight or not be proud of it." And I just got angry, "Who are you to say? She's a woman who's name you don't even know who's happy and proud to be alive. If you want her to feel shame and humiliation, that's up to you - but I won't have it in my car."
And my mother wonders why I never call her... hahaha.
