Have you ever been around one of those evil, ankle biting pooches?
Ever known someone with little hellions they call children?
It's really a shame to me that dominance and submission to most people is well, not for family oriented sites. To even mention it, makes most people cringe. Even what we call alpha male behavior in people isn't really an alpha male... its a narcissist.
My RIR cockerel, about 4.5 months, is trying to act like he's the king of the roost. While he may become a dominant flock leader, for now he's not. If you don't have the time and patience to work with him, then put your children and your own sanity first... get rid of them. I on the other hand, do take the time to work with Roo. You can't treat him like most parents treat their kids. You know what I mean, yelling and screaming when there bad, or spanking when YOU are angry. It takes resolve, severe patience, and a quiet confidence most people in our modern world have zero of. You are to help teach, set boundaries, and love with a firm hand.
You know, speak softly and carry a big stick. The stick isn't literal, its your attitude.
When Roo (the cockerel) gets TOO aggressive with the ladies, he gets a long, deep, stern ROOOOOOO. He stops and looks at me. After the first couple of times now Mr. Vic (the year old RIR/ Maran) steps in to settle him down. Vic only gets loud when he crows. He has the same low, quiet dominant voice I use. A low bark and Roo lowers his head and backs away slowly. It isn't working because I'm making him defensive by chasing him around, its because I'm setting a boundary and then I'm backing it up. He is a rooster, after all. I don't want to change his nature. He needs some aggressiveness to manage a flock. The boundary is who to be aggressive with, and when.
If you don't have those traits in yourself or your mate, then don't fight a losing battle. Get rid of them, and then go find it for yourself. You will notice how most problems in your life will slowly correct themselves, if they haven't gone past the tipping point.