I am so NOT my mother. She lets people push her around all the time and I do not. My mother lives across the country (In Rhode Island) and every time I talk to her its something else, she has illnesses, things are terrible, she is being evicted from her apartment yet again, her car is about to die, shes lost weight, cannot eat, stress too high. My brother and sister both still live at home and fight like cats and dogs, they totally hate each other and adds more stress on mom. They are both old enough to be gone but my brother cannot work so is kinda stuck.
Anyway, the bad thing is, I have had a solution to 99% of her problems for YEARS- she just needs to pack her things and move here. I had a rental, a vehicle and everything for her at one time...but NNOOOO. I didnt talk to her for like a year after that.
Now I just tell her, well, obviously you like living in misery so I cannot help you.
Truly, she must enjoy being miserable or she wouldnt still be doing it and making excuses why she cannot correct the problem. She has had option, she just chooses the wrong ones.
I suppose I should be glad she lives far away, she would probably drive me nuts too.