babe, babe I'm sick and tired of the word babe!!!! (rant)

[patnjess]

Growing up in the south and a trict mama, ma'am is used and sir too. My kids better call me Ma'am especially when I call them, I don't want to here, "what" I hate that. And when I'm asking a direct question it better be yes or no mom, or ma'am.

When I'm out in public, or speaking to someone, its ma'am or sir. I feel this is appropriate unless they are a child, then it is Miss. or little dude, don't know where the dude came in but whatever.

 

[scbatz33]

I don't see the problem with being called ma'am. I did the first couple times - 'cause that's when you realize you have crossed a line you can not un-cross. But I use ma'am and sir all the time when dealing with the public. It's a respect issue. I don't know your name, we aren't familiars, so it's yes ma'am/sir and no ma'am/sir.

My children also use the same, plus please and thank you. It's a politeness that society has allowed to drop in order to make every one "equal" and "feel" good about themselves. Instead of bringing up the culture and expecting more out of people, we dumb it down and "let it slide".

As for the babe, honey, sweety thing....I call my husband baby and he calls me the same. It's our affection for each other. I know he has referred to me as his "old lady" as southern boys tend to do when they get together, but he has always had the decency not to refer to me that way to my face.

I do think it's a bit annoying when younger "kids" call me hon or sweety - but then, around here, it's a manner of speaking so it's easier to over look. I am quite grateful to be back south. After a year north of the Mason-Dixon, I am happy to be called hon and sugar and darlin'. I am grateful to live in a place where people ask permission and don't just assume, where people say good morning and have a nice day and mean it. To have people thank you for letting them shop in your store!

I used to think "southern hospitality" was a nice name for nosiness. Then I moved away.........now I know there are a lot worse things than everyone knowing your business........

 

[patnjess]

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[NGT ANGL]

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Amen to your entire email and welcome back to the South!

 

[scbatz33]

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Nice to be home.

 

[twentynine]

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So why ain't she a d-dil.
Me I couldn't click with the dil--- assuming the d was for DEAR that left Il. I couldn't make a relation out of Il.
I guess she don't like her dil enough for the dil to become a ddil and ain't no telling what dil gonna have to do to become capitalized. You know she is a lowly rated dil now, next step would be ddil. Then the ultimate would be DDIL--

Do ya'll follow me.

 

[gritsar]

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Or to say Thank You! to the person that serves your meal in a restaurant! It's the way I was raised here in the South and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Oh and my DH sometimes calls me by his fraternal grandmothers' full name. He says it's because I remind him so much of her. I know he loved her very much, so I think its sweet.

 

[chicken_china_mom]

My kids father used to call me babe all the time. He almost never used my actual name. Occasionally he'll still slip and call me that, and I want to scream at him "I'm not YOUR babe anymore!" But I'm too polite. He calls his current girlfriend babe too. Or a name that isn't so nice, that is in reference to dogs, if you get my drift. But hey, that's who he wanted to leave his family for, so I say, if you make your bed, have fun laying in it. And my name is CHRIS, not babe...

 

[jspdesign]

What's my given name again?! Sometimes not so sure! lol

Mommy to my kids, Honey to hubby and even my sweet, gentlemanly older farriar, I've only had out twice calls me, "Dear". My good girlfriend calls me "Sweetie". Either, I'm not memorable enough to refer to by name or I just have nickname kharma!

There's worse things in life and I don't think that any of extra names used to my face are insulting or offensive so I'll keep them without complaint.

Jamie - honest to goodness, my given name!

 

[Chicken Chaperone]

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Around here to be called Ma'am or Sir is a mark of respect for the young and old alike but especially to our older Ladies and Gentlemen.
I'm teaching my son to say it- it's considered good manners just like saying please and thank you.
I love it but I guess it's a regional thing that's done/expected/considered a good thing here in the south.