Been very emotional since Wednesday Evening

[Kiki]

Thank You Everyone to all. He failed the breathing test again this morning. Doctor said not ready yet, since it is not because he isn't awake, they will only do it once a day. Just taking it day by day The lab numbers on his kidneys are improving. Temp is normal. Blood Glucose is back to normal. Getting IV nutrition with fat added now.
I called the store where he was to start after the orientation. They asked me to let them know how he was. I told them what happened and he is in ICU on a breathing machine. But before the colonoscopy he said he didn't know if he had a job any more. Was told you assure him we still want him. We want him to get better and not push it to where he would hurt himself. Is there anything we can do for you? I said no.
His brother and nephew came up to see him. When we were going to the parking lot together, his brother jumped me. That I needed to get a f*ING job or get our of his life. That I put too much stress on him. (Did this 8-9 years ago, when Steve was in the hospital). I said if it wasn't for me, he would be dead. Cause he would never put you down as next of kin. You didn't even know about the time he had double pneumonia before we ever got together. Steve accepted my medical issues years ago. You don't know my medical and you never will. That is between me and Steve. I am the one who has been there for him for the past 20 years of marriage as of today and 1.5 years before that.
I called my dad in tears. Dad said tell him to stay the f away from you. If he comes up, just tell Steve you have to go home for a bit and leave.

 

[bobbi-j]

Thank You Everyone to all. He failed the breathing test again this morning. Doctor said not ready yet, since it is not because he isn't awake, they will only do it once a day. Just taking it day by day The lab numbers on his kidneys are improving. Temp is normal. Blood Glucose is back to normal. Getting IV nutrition with fat added now.
I called the store where he was to start after the orientation. They asked me to let them know how he was. I told them what happened and he is in ICU on a breathing machine. But before the colonoscopy he said he didn't know if he had a job any more. Was told you assure him we still want him. We want him to get better and not push it to where he would hurt himself. Is there anything we can do for you? I said no.
His brother and nephew came up to see him. When we were going to the parking lot together, his brother jumped me. That I needed to get a f*ING job or get our of his life. That I put too much stress on him. (Did this 8-9 years ago, when Steve was in the hospital). I said if it wasn't for me, he would be dead. Cause he would never put you down as next of kin. You didn't even know about the time he had double pneumonia before we ever got together. Steve accepted my medical issues years ago. You don't know my medical and you never will. That is between me and Steve. I am the one who has been there for him for the past 20 years of marriage as of today and 1.5 years before that.
I called my dad in tears. Dad said tell him to stay the f away from you. If he comes up, just tell Steve you have to go home for a bit and leave.

Oh, dang. I hope he can get off the vent soon. Glad other things are looking up. About the brother.... I don't even have words. Obviously he's not a rational human being. Best to stay away from him if you can. If you feel threatened, contact law enforcement. Take care of you so you can take care of Steve.

 

[drumstick diva]

agree 100%

 

[Twoleggedmotherhen]

This is the latest update on Steve. There were fishulas in the colon, said mild Crohns, but that was not the cause of the diarrhea. Today they did a CT Scan of abdomen. Down close to pelvic (from my understanding), it showed 3 more fishulas and 3 infected pockets. ICU Doctor asked the radiologist if a needle could be inserted and draw out most of the infection. Was told not in the area it is. GI doctor said higher antibiotics and steroids as treatment. He has a feeding tube and IV nutrition drip with fat. A Echocardiogram was done yesterday. For the Afib. EKG done this morning. Cardiologist was brought in. He came in and talked to me. And got family heart history (mother died of heart attack, brother had heart attack and has a stint). He said Steve didn't have Afib until the aspirations. Now heart is only pumping half out of what goes in. He said he is going to keep watch, but he thinks that with as sick and malnourished he is that is what is causing it. That down the line when he is better, if it hasn't gone back to normal then they would put him under use paddles and jump start it (that's how he put it).
He has the breathing tube, 8th day. Have been testing him every morning to see if he can pass to get it out. Has failed when it comes to breathing without machine assistance. They tried twice today in the morning and after the CT Scan, no go. He has Aspiration Pneumonia, lots of stuff still being suctioned out. He is not sedated & not getting anything to calm him down. At 4:30 PT came in. They had him standing at the side of the bed! Of course you know what that means...He is trying to get up. Tried his best blue eye puppy dog eye plea for me to undo the restraints. Told him I was sorry but, I can't take them off, it is for his safety. As soon as the breathing tube is out they will come off. He keeps putting his legs off the bed trying to get up.
Steve is scared. He admitted it to me by squeezing my hand when I asked him. I only asked him because he had tears flowing last night. IN 21.5 years I have never seen him cry. Took everything I had to hold back tears. I kept telling him it was going to be alright. That all the numbers are going in the right direction. I said make me a promise, when something is wrong you will go get it checked out and not tough it out. Squeeze my hand if you promise. He squeezed hard.
I know he is also worried about me being out here alone, cause when he had to go out of town for classes he always worried about that. I told him not to worry about me, I have Tanner, Tristan, Nova,Brad & amy watching over me. Plus Scrappy (12 pound Chihuahua) thinks he is a guard dog, you know he is protective of us. Cell phone by the bed and Don't forget, I have the hand gun and I am not afraid to use it. It's not like the other time you got sick. I was in the house alone and the neighbors, except for Micheal, didn't even care, kept blinders on. He indicated he felt better knowing that.
Well off to try and get some sleep.

 

[Trux]

So sorry for all your troubles. Thoughts and prayers for you both and best wishes for Steve to make a full recovery from this. As for your brother in law, my thoughts can not be put in this post because I like BYC and do not wish to be banned. Wishing you both all the best!

 

[DellaMyDarling]

Thinking of you!

Try to get in touch with the hospital social worker. They can push to get him medicated for the anxiety.
It's possible that he is too critical of a condition for anything of that nature right now. Many anxiety drugs will alter heart rates.
Would he enjoy being read to? Softly playing music? The mind can become a jail in the hospital.

 

[Twoleggedmotherhen]

So sorry for all your troubles. Thoughts and prayers for you both and best wishes for Steve to make a full recovery from this. As for your brother in law, my thoughts can not be put in this post because I like BYC and do not wish to be banned. Wishing you both all the best!

Thank You. As for Brother in law, I took care of that situation. Instead of avoiding him, I got thinking like heck if I am going to leave. He is my husband, I'm the one who has been there for him for 21.5 years not him. I confronted him. I stood my ground and let him know I wasn't going anywhere and I wasn't going to take any crap from him. There will be consequences.

 

[Twoleggedmotherhen]

Thinking of you!

Try to get in touch with the hospital social worker. They can push to get him medicated for the anxiety.
It's possible that he is too critical of a condition for anything of that nature right now. Many anxiety drugs will alter heart rates.
Would he enjoy being read to? Softly playing music? The mind can become a jail in the hospital.

He likes to have TV back ground at all times. I've been talking to him reassuring him. Before he went for the colonoscopy he was worried about how we were going to pay for it all. That's why he wouldn't go to a doctor. Thursday (the 24th) we talked with a financial aid person. She filled out paper work, said we qualified for assistance. That 75-100% of the hospital bill will be written off. Since we don't have insurance, hospital calls it self paying and automatically take off 35% off the bill. There will not be a ambulance bill since he was taken into the ambulance on the gurney. Only time you get charged is if you walk into the ambulance. So will just have doctors. She said when we get the letter of what % of assistance we are going to receive to ask the doctors' if they will honor it. If not what assistance programs they have that we qualify for. Said they all have programs just don't have to let people know.
29th I had an appointment with another group, that assists to get on medicaid. We didn't qualify for May, but as of today we are covered by medicaid.
I let him know that the medical costs are not a problem, I have taken care of it. And until he is able to go back to work, we have medical insurance that will pay 100% of all the bills. That eased his mind of that stress.
He loves hearing about how the dogs and Chickens are doing.
Since he can't talk, I came up with a signal for him to use to let the nurses know he wants me. And they will call me. He raises the middle, ring and pinky fingers on the left hand. Nurses liked that.

 

[getaclue]

Thank you for the updates. I really do appreciate it, especially considering that you have a lot on your plate, and not a lot of spare time.

 

[anderstr196]

All my thoughts are with you and your husband!