I've been reading the No-Cry Sleep Solution book to help with my 9-month-old son's HORRIBLE sleep problems. Yesterday, I started trying to use the author's suggestions for teaching him to fall asleep in bed and for breaking the nurse-to-sleep association that makes him think he has to breastfeed all night long. So far, it's not going well. It's barely any easier on me and him than the cry-it-out method. I'll tell you, there was quite a lot of crying last night. I think I might be doing it wrong, but trying to read a long book full of every possible scenario of child-rearing that don't apply to my situation is difficult with a needy child whining that I'm reading and not paying attention to him! So I thought I'd come here for tips from anyone who's done this.
Last night, I got him to go to sleep in his bed after an hour of denying him the breast. That was his first night waking at 9:40. Then for his midnight wake-up, I did breastfeed him, since it had been six hours since his last meal. I thought I would be able to deny him the breast at the next wake up. I rocked and walked him for 1.5 hours and had to give up. I went to sleep feeling like I had utterly failed and wasted an hour and a half of our sleep time by trying this.
This evening has already been rough. Dogs barked, cat meowed, and baby has been woken up twice so far. I soothed him until I started to feel frustrated at how VERY awake he was so I called in reinforcements (daddy). Now, to be fair to him, I had not really explained the book or my goals. So his idea of helping was to take the baby into his office, with the computer playing music and the lights on until he falls asleep. I finally went in there to a very awake, cooing, playing baby and explained to husband what our goal is here (falling asleep in his bed) and that lights and music might not be conducive to that. Now he's in the nursery, lights off, walking and rocking a screaming, crying baby.
Help! What are we doing wrong? Besides, of course, the lights and music. What can we do to help him get over the thought of breastfeeding all night? He wakes me up 3 times or more every night, sometimes up to 7 times in a night. He's just awful. I also need tips on getting him to nap longer in the day, since the author says that's part of the problem, and on helping him get rid of his gas at night, which I think is hurting him and keeping him up. Today, I took him on an hour+ car ride to get him to nap because nothing else was working. And at night I've been giving him simethicone and it doesn't seem to be working. I'm at my wit's end and ready to just give up and let him wake me up a million times every night for the rest of his life. It's been so long since I've gotten any sleep. Or maybe I'll just run away to Mexico.
Last night, I got him to go to sleep in his bed after an hour of denying him the breast. That was his first night waking at 9:40. Then for his midnight wake-up, I did breastfeed him, since it had been six hours since his last meal. I thought I would be able to deny him the breast at the next wake up. I rocked and walked him for 1.5 hours and had to give up. I went to sleep feeling like I had utterly failed and wasted an hour and a half of our sleep time by trying this.
This evening has already been rough. Dogs barked, cat meowed, and baby has been woken up twice so far. I soothed him until I started to feel frustrated at how VERY awake he was so I called in reinforcements (daddy). Now, to be fair to him, I had not really explained the book or my goals. So his idea of helping was to take the baby into his office, with the computer playing music and the lights on until he falls asleep. I finally went in there to a very awake, cooing, playing baby and explained to husband what our goal is here (falling asleep in his bed) and that lights and music might not be conducive to that. Now he's in the nursery, lights off, walking and rocking a screaming, crying baby.
Help! What are we doing wrong? Besides, of course, the lights and music. What can we do to help him get over the thought of breastfeeding all night? He wakes me up 3 times or more every night, sometimes up to 7 times in a night. He's just awful. I also need tips on getting him to nap longer in the day, since the author says that's part of the problem, and on helping him get rid of his gas at night, which I think is hurting him and keeping him up. Today, I took him on an hour+ car ride to get him to nap because nothing else was working. And at night I've been giving him simethicone and it doesn't seem to be working. I'm at my wit's end and ready to just give up and let him wake me up a million times every night for the rest of his life. It's been so long since I've gotten any sleep. Or maybe I'll just run away to Mexico.