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[ChickenCanoe]

Good Morning, Cafe’ Folks!
I’ve been lurking just inside the doorway for a bit. For those of you dealing with Alzheimer’s and drivers, you have my sympathy. That’s a hard one for sure. I took my aunt’s keys home with me. She had dementia, ended up in the hospital at age 94 after trying to kill herself by carbon monoxide poisoning (sat in her running car in the garage - didn’t work because it was a newer car and the garage had vented soffits - a neighbor noticed and called 911). The Dr. told me she could not go home again and wouldn’t release her until I could prove I had an assisted living apartment for her, and told me that under no circumstances should she drive again. One reason being her dementia, the other reason being she kept talking about dying in a car crash. One evening I was visiting her I her new apartment along with several other ladies and she asked me when she could start driving again. I told her that the Dr. said that she’d have to wait awhile. Her closest friend (who had access to Aunt’s house, therefore the car keys) told her, “You just call AAA and have them tow it here. Then you can drive.” When I left the apartment that evening, I went to her house, changed the code on the garage door so the friend could no longer get in, scoured the house for every key I could find and took them all.

Introduce your aunt to Uber or Lyft. It is cheaper than owning a car for intermittent use. Sell the car and that will fund a year or more of rides.

 

[DobieLover]

I let him drive to see how things were going. He is still safe but slow and makes more of the square cornering moves. Not particularly smooth in the corners but okay.

What is affecting your DHs driving abilities?

 

[bobbi-j]

Introduce your aunt to Uber or Lyft. It is cheaper than owning a car for intermittent use. Sell the car and that will fund a year or more of rides.

My aunt passed away 5 years ago - 17 days after she moved to assisted living. Not sure she would have been able at that point to figure out Uber or Lyft, but that’s a great idea! I hope someone else can do that. Those aren’t available where I live, so it would never have occurred to me.

 

[bruceha2000]

Be proud of her, the doctor had to threaten to have my dad's license revoked if he continued to drive and he still walks around with the keys in his pocket. He still tries to find reason he has to drive and recently mom discovered him getting ready to drive somewhere when she came back from a quick trip to the store.

It's hard to give up one's independence!!

Don't work too hard.

Hard thing to do when you are running your own business.

Anyway, I moved my pepper plants outside too. They’re not getting very much sun where they are in the house so I figured I’d move them outside. Probably a bit cold for them but they’re in the direct sun so very warm and I’ll move them back in later. Hopefully it helps them cause they’re not doing the best. Producing new leaves but also losing a lot of leaves so

Too early I think!!! Shouldn't be putting them outside during the day to "harden off" until a week or so before they go in the ground and that is a LONG time from now!!

Maybe I should just move them to a sunnier spot in the room rather fully outside??

Yep! They might also need a bit of fertilizer.

 

[ShrekDawg]

It's hard to give up one's independence!!


Hard thing to do when you are running your own business.


Too early I think!!! Shouldn't be putting them outside during the day to "harden off" until a week or so before they go in the ground and that is a LONG time from now!!


Yep! They might also need a bit of fertilizer.

Thanks! That’s a good point!! I wasn’t really trying to harden them off per se but rather thought the sun might do them good haha but from now on I’ll just move them to a sunnier spot and I’ll also try adding some fertilizer. I think we might still have some from last year.

 

[ShrekDawg]

Oh and I should also probably note these aren’t going in the ground or transplants. Haven’t started my seeds yet this year. These are potted ones from last year that I overwintered inside for the first time.

 

[ShrekDawg]

Here are some pictures of the plants. Okay, a lot of pictures. I’ll put it in a spoiler because of that. But I tried to get pictures of a bunch of the leaves. A lot have either weird burn marks on the edges or holes or dark spots and some have really weird spotting/coloring on them. And I think you can somewhat see what I meant earlier when I said one used to be bushy. You can see all the old branches and how bare it is now. Granted some of the leaves I’ve pulled off but still.

Spoiler: Plants

 

[bruceha2000]

I've never tried to overwinter a pepper plant. I once tried with the basil plant but it died.

 

[sourland]

My rosemary plant just died.

 

[ShrekDawg]

I've never tried to overwinter a pepper plant. I once tried with the basil plant but it died.

Yeah, I never have either but I read that peppers were technically perennials so I wanted to try it. I usually just let them die but figured since they were potted anyway, I’d give it a go. I did let all the inground ones die. Didn’t feel like digging them up. plus they were tiny anyway.

I have never had much success with herbs.