Can I give this to my teacher without coming across a dork?

[hunterjumper999]

i think its very apparent from your posts that you are getting more than a little too interested in the teacher ( wether or not shes a woman , man, or a goat i think from the tone of your posts your getting too into her)

I'm not sure how old you are either- but I too tended to form friendships that were intense and i read into them alot more than i should have.

Just be wary.

 

[Laney]

I'm going to agree with Potterwatch here. You had a horrible trauma with your dad. And you need another stable adult in your life. The problem is that you are reaching out to an adult who is supposed to be a transitory figure in your life. She will not be your teacher next year, she'll be out for maternity leave, if not longer for extended medical leave if this turns into a tough pregnancy.

You are already showing fears that she could die like your father, and that shows me that you are using her to help you heal. I have dealt with a lot of grief in my life and we all have our own ways to deal with it. It's not easy, or clean or pretty. However, as a child, you need help, so there is nothing wrong with talking to your school councilor. There is nothing wrong with telling her how much this teacher reminds you of your Dad and how much that still hurts.

What's going on with you sounds normal, and healing. And sharing that with your Councilor, your Mom and your Teacher all together might be a good thing. Just remember that Mrs X is in a very bad place to be the one to help you through things right now.

Just remember that even us adults need to reach out for help. I do it every week in therapy over the loss of my first husband and the trauma that caused in my life.

Laney

 

[Felicia]

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I agree completely. Kargo, none of us are saying that you are bad for doing this in any way sweetheart. I went through the opposite thing where I had some bad stuff happen to me, and I completely backed away from everyone I knew and distanced myself. I went to counseling, and it helped so much. Counseling isn't just for freaks, it for normal people too, and it's nothing to ever be ashamed of. Talk to your school counselor or your mom. They will help you out

If you ever need someone to talk to sweetie, just pm me

 

[Lil_Chickadee]

I think it was sweet, Kargo! I bet she was very tickled to know you gals were concerned about her.

 

[Julie08]

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I agree.

Me too.

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

I concur. Reaching out for help is a good sign, but you may want to reach out to someone who is not supposed to be a distant authority figure.

It's sweet that you want to help her, but thinking about your teacher day in, day out, sad that she's not there and letting it ruin your entire day and week is a little extreme. But that's just my opinion.

 

[007Dawn]

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I think it is sweet and I think it is nice that there are people that are so sincerely caring about another people left in the world! As for decision making I have sad news for you...

the part of the brain that allows the decision process to be a good, and to make decisions, and to make healthy and wise decisions does not fully develop until you are about 28 years of age. Which is why I'm always so amazed that "adults" except teenagers and young adults to make good decisions and if they don't punish them so severely. (like jail etc.)

 

[Nupine]

I agree that you seem a little obsessed with her. I would seriously think about speaking to a school couselor.

 

[ebwy]

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I also agree with this.

it's easy to get obsessive when someone treats you nicely, especially when other things aren't going well for whatever reason. But being obessed with one teacher can lead to problems later.

 

[thecochincoop]

there is nothing wrong with drawing a picture for your teacher. I think it is cute and I wish there were more teachers and students with that kind of caring. Just know that she will only be your teacher this year and will have to move on. That being said I don't think it is obsessive or anything like that. I think it is really nice that you like your teacher that much.