Can't do this much more

[ChooksinChoppers]

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My DH is in the military and out of the country. He tries to help but there isn't much he can do from where he is. And I don't tell him everything because he can't do anything and honestly, he don't need the added stress worrying about things he can't do.

OMGoodness .. God love you .. and bless your husband.

I don't have any words of wisdom, because most of what I WANT to say wouldn't be legal ....

I agree.... God Bless you. I cannot believe APS wouldnt help you, I can't believe that doctor allowing her all those meds...isnt there a way to have him investigated for that? military doc or no...i think thats illegal. Hmmmmm look into that.

 

[krcote]

Sweet liberty!!!!

 

[ChooksinChoppers]

http://mdnationwide.blogspot.com/2007/05/reporting-doctor.html

 

[SallyF]

Good for you, standing up for yourself. The old saying is that if you don't want to be a doormat, the first thing you have to do is get up off the floor. BTW, if your MIL can drive herself to her doctor's appointments, there is no reason she can't get up and come to the table for meals. Sounds like she's got a real con game going and your FIL is happy to let you deal with it. Good luck, and be strong!

 

[sfw2]

Kitt, you are my new hero.

 

[bt03]

Hero of my day award goes to...... KITT!!!!

When I grow up

I want to have a backbone like that! Now stick to your guns and don't let her get away with any more BS.

 

[3goodeggs]

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X2! yea you!

 

[ladyride]

Go girl

it could not have been easy to take a firm stand but stay on your perch so to speak , mil drives to md appts , to go shopping she can come down to eat & take care of " dogs " you really have enough to do with the farm , cooking , cleaning , laundry etc. I would not leave MY home for anyone . That being said if they become too uncomfortable invite them to live with the other in- laws who won't take care of them.

Anyone who comes to my home goes by my rules it is a matter of respect. You can be loving no doubt but be firm. When your other in - laws visit they can abide by the rules of kindergarten of cleaning up their own messes as well.

Having taken this walk you are walking now these steps unfortunately sometimes have to be taken. Remember to be good to yourself in this process take some time for yourself as well this is neccesary for your own mental health. MIL can be left alone & clean up after herself as well sounds like she is a very good manipulator. Granted she feels like she has lost control over her life but it is time you both take some back equally. Ask her to help with preparing meals so she has some input in the process , to help with chores around the house to feel productive . The word can't is not in the dictionary look it up.That bedroom she has allowed to become her prison so to speak wooo - hooo time to escape. If the dogs toilet in the house keep them crated until they are doing better. Have her take them out every couple hours til they catch on again. You made the choice to remove the carpet because of their poor toileting habits now is the time for them to relearn . It will be slow process but can be rewarding . Many good thoughts & prayers go with you

stick by your guns you are heading in the right direction.

 

[gritsar]

You did good Kitt. Now stick to your guns!

 

[Kitt]

Thank you all so much for the vote of confidence.

I feel like a little banty roo in a pen with Jersey Giants.

It has been soooo bad in the last almost 24 hrs. Mil and I have been going at it. Inlaws (bils and sil) came out already this a.m. Short version, they don't want her and said as much in front of her.
She let her dogs out and now I am making her clean up the mess. (other option was i was going to deposit it in her room) Of course all mouthiness happens when FIL is at work. Last night he told her it was common sense get over it.

I'm sticking with what I said. I know it is going to get worse before it gets better. Like I told FIL, maybe I could handle it if I knew it was Alzheimer and not just pure 100% laziness. If she don't know what she is doing is one thing. I can understand that. Deal with it in a different way. But pure laziness has gotta go. I do know she has limits on what she can do. I'm not that heartless. But goodness, some of this is ridiculous.

She has a master bedroom (we had built a bathroom on for them) and she said she can't hardly get to it let alone clean up after her dog, etc. I told her it was because her muscles are weakening because she DON'T get up. She called me a name and said I didn't care. So I told her what it would be like if I didn't care. This is worse than having young children throwing fits and then teenagers in their hideous mood swings and fit throwing. (mine really wasn't that bad but I have seen some that were ugh).

My plans for the day are to go back to my grow out pen and make sure I don't have any more chicks that decided to go roo on me. Gotta watch ranchy. LOl
Make some sweet tea and sit on the patio and think of how to build a new coop, if I should turn Crinkle into a big chicken nugget (i know I should but...

) and then take the 2 special needs chicks out onto the bed with me to watch some tv then out to their play pen for a bit of fresh air.