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The right thing, is to BE HAPPY together now, while you still can! every day we are here is a gift! dont waste it making you BOTH unhappy! let him make his OWN choices! he is not a baby...remember caring for someone is NOT the same a controlling them.....you get my drift...
I do get your drift. The other advocate on my shoulder says, "haven't we all heard stories of people who used to be overweight, saying that they never realized how unhappy they had been until they lost weight?" This comes back to me over and over again, pretty forcefully. I know he's unhappy about his weight, because he says so all the time.
ahh! but how can you know this? maybe he'd be happy to stop getting nagged....
(just kidding!) ....but honestly..if youre not happy with him..or not attracted to him anymore...you should tell him...because right now it sounds to me that you are the one not happy.....but me personally..i love my hubby any ole' way!
but everyone has certain limits for their attraction...and if he's not cutting it for you dont make both of your lives miserable...let him go....you can find a guy that works for you..and i am sure he'll be able to find someone who is attracted to him also...
The right thing, is to BE HAPPY together now, while you still can! every day we are here is a gift! dont waste it making you BOTH unhappy! let him make his OWN choices! he is not a baby...remember caring for someone is NOT the same a controlling them.....you get my drift...
I do get your drift. The other advocate on my shoulder says, "haven't we all heard stories of people who used to be overweight, saying that they never realized how unhappy they had been until they lost weight?" This comes back to me over and over again, pretty forcefully. I know he's unhappy about his weight, because he says so all the time.
ahh! but how can you know this? maybe he'd be happy to stop getting nagged....