Can't we all just get along?

[black_cat]

I will say that it's an EXTREMELY stressful time right now- we're in the middle of a pandemic, the US just had an election, and the holidays are a stressful time for many people. That, coupled with the difficulty of conveying tone using typed words, can lead to more conflict than usual. Some people also just have off days as well. That being said, some people are just unnecessarily rude, and that's not ok. I'm sorry if I've ever been pointedly rude or mean to anyone on BYC, and I hope I can be better in the future.

 

[black_cat]

However, Spook makes a good point, if you are referring to the various threads he and I participate on, most often, those are all just us being silly and teasing one another, and are not meant to be taken seriously.

I think that I know what they're talking about, and don't worry, it's not you. You and Spook are both great and I'm glad to have been able to be around to meet you.

 

[JadeFarms]

I will say that it's an EXTREMELY stressful time right now- we're in the middle of a pandemic, the US just had an election, and the holidays are a stressful time for many people. That, coupled with the difficulty of conveying tone using typed words, can lead to more conflict than usual. Some people also just have off days as well. That being said, some people are just unnecessarily rude, and that's not ok. I'm sorry if I've ever been pointedly rude or mean to anyone on BYC, and I hope I can be better in the future.

I 100% agree

 

[ButtonHoarder]

I 100% agree

Me too

 

[tripletfeb]

Then I am afraid I just haven't seen what you are referring to. If I do, I will certainly ask them to be kinder.


However, Spook makes a good point, if you are referring to the various threads he and I participate on, most often, those are all just us being silly and teasing one another, and are not meant to be taken seriously.

I am not referring to either of you. I can tell when people are teasing each other and when they aren't. I'm referring to the "not" times

 

[cooingdove]

I 100% agree

me three!

 

[SulkyBantam]

I wanted to say-

a)
It is really hard to tell how something is meant through a screen.
The rude person could be being funny or just opinionated.
You could just ask- e.g. 'excuse me, I'm sure you did not mean that rudely, were you joking?'
b)
Sometimes, when you are angry, you say things you don't mean. It also helps to understand that people might just be having a bad day.
Also, 'educators' are more like teachers- they might argue, but their opinions are trusted so usually right!
c)
There's nothing like apologising! If you are miffed at someone, say so- they'll probably say sorry, and you'll discover a new friend.
Or ask if you've offended someone- you'll either be happy that you haven't, or relieved you can put it right.

Sorry if I'm babbling. I just thought that it might make things clearer for users who are upset with each other, right?
If we try to understand each other, we will 'All Just Get Along'!

 

[Orpingtons Mom]

There was a recent thread all about loving Orpingtons. Jade was on one side and everyone else (almost) was on the other.

Ok. We got a little snarky, but I think everyone realized it was not serious. Yes there are times when some people have a major sense of humor failure... but sometimes it’s just people talking “trash”.

PS. Did I use that that expression correctly? I’m a boomer, so I’m not sure LOL

 

[JadeFarms]

I wanted to say-

a)
It is really hard to tell how something is meant through a screen.
The rude person could be being funny or just opinionated.
You could just ask- e.g. 'excuse me, I'm sure you did not mean that rudely, were you joking?'
b)
Sometimes, when you are angry, you say things you don't mean. It also helps to understand that people might just be having a bad day.
Also, 'educators' are more like teachers- they might argue, but their opinions are trusted so usually right!
c)
There's nothing like apologising! If you are miffed at someone, say so- they'll probably say sorry, and you'll discover a new friend.
Or ask if you've offended someone- you'll either be happy that you haven't, or relieved you can put it right.

Sorry if I'm babbling. I just thought that it might make things clearer for users who are upset with each other, right?
If we try to understand each other, we will 'All Just Get Along'!

I agree with this. Some people can come out as rude. It’s best to talk to them and say “that was kinda rude” or “I didn’t mean for it to start an argument” so you can understand the reason of why they said something because they could’ve had a bad day. If they are being rude and have no reason then it’s best to report or tell them you don’t want to argue.

 

[Orpingtons Mom]

Jade,

I thought your tiny type was hilarious. You didn’t take anything seriously. Did you??