All right, so my parents divorced when I was a baby, and I don't remember them being married at all. My earliest memory is going to daycare while my mom worked.
Switching parents and houses is THE hardest thing ever. It's gotten to the point where I dread visiting my dad because it means switching houses- twice! When I go to Dad's, it's so quiet it's creepy, and when I go back home, it seems so loud my head will split. My stepsiblings seem to regard me as some odd space creature that visits every once in a while and disrupts their life. It's going to get harder, as my dad is going to legally adopt my stepsister soon.
Once I get back home, it takes me a few days to get back in the swing of things, which really irritates my mom. I don't always remember EVERY animal chore that needs done, and those chores are mine and my sister's. So she starts ranting about how bad visitation is for my character and what an awful parent my father is, etcetera. Which, in turn, irritates the life out of ME. I ask for chores at my dad's. All I get is "Will you feed the dogs, sweetie?" If I ask my stepmom: "Nope, I've got it." I'd just start doing SOMETHING on my own, but I don't know the system, and if I screw it up, I get eyerolls from stepsis. And asking my dad for a job to do makes it worse with my stepsiblings. I think they think Dad plays the favorites game. He once told me, "Your stepmom says I think you walk on water." When I tell him that I really am only human, he says, "My dear daughter, have you seen your competition?" All in fun, of course, but he won't quit! I've asked him to. No change. He THINKS I'm an angel because at his house, there's NOBODY to aggrivate me! He's usually asleep (night shift), my stepmom is sleeping or working, stepsibs in school. It's impossible to lose my temper when there's nobody to yell at.
And then there's the social-misfitness of it all. My stepbrother is your average, anti-social, video game playing teen. My stepsister is your average miniskirt wearing preteen who's favorite word is "Duh!" I am... Well, look at my signature. I'm the nerdy girl.
I was wondering.... Are there any other people on here who deal/have dealt with this? How do you/did you cope?
Sorry to vent. I just needed that outta my system.
Evelyn
Switching parents and houses is THE hardest thing ever. It's gotten to the point where I dread visiting my dad because it means switching houses- twice! When I go to Dad's, it's so quiet it's creepy, and when I go back home, it seems so loud my head will split. My stepsiblings seem to regard me as some odd space creature that visits every once in a while and disrupts their life. It's going to get harder, as my dad is going to legally adopt my stepsister soon.
Once I get back home, it takes me a few days to get back in the swing of things, which really irritates my mom. I don't always remember EVERY animal chore that needs done, and those chores are mine and my sister's. So she starts ranting about how bad visitation is for my character and what an awful parent my father is, etcetera. Which, in turn, irritates the life out of ME. I ask for chores at my dad's. All I get is "Will you feed the dogs, sweetie?" If I ask my stepmom: "Nope, I've got it." I'd just start doing SOMETHING on my own, but I don't know the system, and if I screw it up, I get eyerolls from stepsis. And asking my dad for a job to do makes it worse with my stepsiblings. I think they think Dad plays the favorites game. He once told me, "Your stepmom says I think you walk on water." When I tell him that I really am only human, he says, "My dear daughter, have you seen your competition?" All in fun, of course, but he won't quit! I've asked him to. No change. He THINKS I'm an angel because at his house, there's NOBODY to aggrivate me! He's usually asleep (night shift), my stepmom is sleeping or working, stepsibs in school. It's impossible to lose my temper when there's nobody to yell at.
And then there's the social-misfitness of it all. My stepbrother is your average, anti-social, video game playing teen. My stepsister is your average miniskirt wearing preteen who's favorite word is "Duh!" I am... Well, look at my signature. I'm the nerdy girl.
I was wondering.... Are there any other people on here who deal/have dealt with this? How do you/did you cope?
Sorry to vent. I just needed that outta my system.
Evelyn
