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[Sumatra503]

I have my small flock of 10 chickens. 3 of which are Roos.

 

[chics in the sun]

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Do they all get along?

Good morning folks! Coffee tastes so good this morning. Have you ever bought the "Black Silk" by Folgers? It really is not bad for the cheaper stuff.
Well, I've just got to vent today. I thought we all had everything worked out with the extended family of my late husband. We made plans to go down to SIL's house Christmas evening for dinner. We are also going to Disney World on Wednesday. So you know what MIL says to me on the phone last night? "What are you doing Christmas morning?" Me: "UH, well, you know, opening gifts, having some breakfast, not much,.... um..... huh?" MIL: "Well, are we invited?" "Um, well, Uh, I thought we all planned to go to Michelle's in the evening? Isn't that what we decided? We were keeping the morning kind of relaxed. My parents are feeding the homeless in the morning, they'll be over after that, uh......." Thinking: Did you hear me invite you over?
I was so surprised, and felt terrible, but I have to have my own time, too, and do you really think BF wants to spend his ENTIRE Christmas day with my late husband's family? They all get along great, but it is still kind of akward for him, and I have to move on and have time for us. Heck, even my Mom said to me, "You know, we don't HAVE to come over if you want time to yourselves".!!
The funny thing is, my husband and I may have reserved Christmas morning for just us, anyway. The amount of presents the nieces and nephews get is obscene, and it is absolute chaos. I'm keeping my promise to make sure my son spends time with them, but circumstances have changed and I do have to do some things to move on. Sigh. Okay, thanks for letting me get that off my chest. I think more than anything I feel bad for her.

Anyway, it's the start of two weeks off for me!!

Taking it easy today, may go to our outdoor market and a coffe shop where a friend is selling her artwork. And wrap, wrap, wrap.

 

[quercus21]

Morning/Afternoon People,

Weather: warm spell this morning, woke up to 17deg, high of mid to upper 30's.

Mall scene today with the better half. oh boy................................... shoot me now please.................................
The worst part is going to be tomorrow. The oldest rat is having her annual "tea party" which means a houseful, standing room only of racket, noise, do I need to say more????? Best part is when I walk into a room, you can hear a pin drop and someplace from the far reaches of a corner you'll hear "Hello Mr. Brown"

chicks in the sun: We use one of those funnel type drip coffee things. Light weight, easy to pack, I can't break it (except I have melted one). We have a porcelain french press at the house.

osedog: I am looking at 4 more birds for this spring. 2 buffs and 2 wy?????????? (can't spell it nor pronounce it)

Enjoy the day
Kaj

Inlaws Christmas eve
Grand Inlaw over Christmas for supper
day after Christmas, my fathers.

 

[math ace]

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Sounds like MIL needs to move on too. . . . Reserving Christmas for "just us" is appropriate.
MIL will just have to understand the boundaries. Offer another day to visit, but stand firm with the "just us" stand.
If you cave, you will have to repeat the discussion at Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas - AGAIN and AGAIN.

JUST my opinion - - take it or leave it!

Take care girl friend. . . . ENJOY that Christmas break. I am so enjoying my children this year . . .

 

[oesdog]

Quote:
Do they all get along?

Good morning folks! Coffee tastes so good this morning. Have you ever bought the "Black Silk" by Folgers? It really is not bad for the cheaper stuff.
Well, I've just got to vent today. I thought we all had everything worked out with the extended family of my late husband. We made plans to go down to SIL's house Christmas evening for dinner. We are also going to Disney World on Wednesday. So you know what MIL says to me on the phone last night? "What are you doing Christmas morning?" Me: "UH, well, you know, opening gifts, having some breakfast, not much,.... um..... huh?" MIL: "Well, are we invited?" "Um, well, Uh, I thought we all planned to go to Michelle's in the evening? Isn't that what we decided? We were keeping the morning kind of relaxed. My parents are feeding the homeless in the morning, they'll be over after that, uh......." Thinking: Did you hear me invite you over?
I was so surprised, and felt terrible, but I have to have my own time, too, and do you really think BF wants to spend his ENTIRE Christmas day with my late husband's family? They all get along great, but it is still kind of akward for him, and I have to move on and have time for us. Heck, even my Mom said to me, "You know, we don't HAVE to come over if you want time to yourselves".!!
The funny thing is, my husband and I may have reserved Christmas morning for just us, anyway. The amount of presents the nieces and nephews get is obscene, and it is absolute chaos. I'm keeping my promise to make sure my son spends time with them, but circumstances have changed and I do have to do some things to move on. Sigh. Okay, thanks for letting me get that off my chest. I think more than anything I feel bad for her.

Anyway, it's the start of two weeks off for me!!

Taking it easy today, may go to our outdoor market and a coffe shop where a friend is selling her artwork. And wrap, wrap, wrap.

You are right to vent. - It is a hard situation to be in for you. I have another friend Sue who is struggling with this issue as well. She is in her 30s was married to a good friend of mine Mike for a lot of years. They had 3 beautiful kids( All under 8 when they lost their dad). One terrible day her husband went on a bike ride out with friends from Church. He was the worship leader and very musically tallented. Somehow they lost controle of the bikes and went into eachother and headbutted. They had the right gear, but were speed cycling. Unfortunately Mike had hemophilia and his brain started to bleed dispite wearing a protective helmet. The Ambulance didn;t priority the case as they thought it was grown men on push bikes, when they were on speed cycles and he was vaulnerable. Over an hour later they turned up and by that stage without the proper care and Factor 8 Mike was really already gone. 3 days later they turned off his life support he was severly brain damaged and blind by that stage. Now 4 years on Sue is like you, she is dating and is trying to rebiuld her life. Christmas is one of those hard times when parents of the partner who has sadly passed away feel they are lossing everyone, Mikes Mum and Dad are always struggling like your MIL too!. It is hard for them to let go and move on as they are also grieving. I am telling you this because for them it is much harder to do the "moving on". They are too old to have another child and nothing will replace the child they have lost anyway. You and your son are their future!!!!

- No matter how painful and hard you can in time learn to love again and biuld a new family. Please don;t feel bad about making bounries to protect your new relationship, However take the time to look at your own son and remember that your Mother in law is a mother just like you only she has lost her baby and is feeling vaulnerable and fragile right now. LOVE HER THROUGH THIS - if you don;t spend time with her on Christmas day arrange a Special day over Christmas when YOU can take your Son and spend special time with Granny!!!!!

Oesdog -

 

[chics in the sun]

See, that's the thing that threw me- We ARE spending time together. I'm the one that planned the trip to Disney World for just us - MIL, SIL, me, and the kids - my idea! We are going Wednesday, and spending the night at Fort Wilderness so we can stay all evening and see the Christmas lights. Then we will see them Christmas evening, too. That is why it caught me off guard, and I didn't know what to say. But I didn't invite them over - it was hard, as I know she is struggling, but I held my ground. I also feel like it is SIL's turn to have us come there. Last year they all came here Christmas day (again, not first thing in the morning, but in the afternoon), and I always feel obligated to do more cleaning and cooking if it's more than my own imediate family that's going to be here.

Well, it's been raining all morning. So much for the market. We're headed to the gym instead, which I really needed to do anyway.

 

[oesdog]

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Just keep healthy boundries and love her. You need the JUST you guys time to.

Oesdog - DON'T FEEL BAD your doing the right thing. -

 

[rancher hicks]

Morning everyone, hope all have a good day. Lots to do, places to go, people to annoy.

take care

Rancher

 

[oesdog]

Ok I admit it I am a big child!!!!!!!

Oesdog

 

[Sissy]

oesdog

Love the snowman
we lost ours yesterday. everything is gone with temps at 40
no snow.
the coffee was great but just no time to say hi his morning
sure was busy and I m sure you all have had
the same in past weeks one day or another.

Iam wishiing you all
A Blessed Merry christmas
and May all good things come to you
and yours this coming New Year.
Sissy