Coronavirus, Covid 19 Discussion and How It Has Affected Your Daily Life Chat Thread

[FortCluck]

We are working outside today building a coop, planting stuff, and hanging with our feathered friends. Picking up 42 duck eggs and 42 chicken eggs from a friend. Some are for meat and some are to replenish both our flocks.

Isn't she gorgeous

 

[sourland]

Here's some pics from the wonderful community that I live in.

Thanks to the staff where I work.
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Lights and sirens parade. All of our first responders drove the streets with lights and sirens going to show their support for our community.
The flight for life also joined in.

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A pipeline company from Utah brought this to show their support and displayed it for a couple of hours.

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Our town held a Crusin Main parade

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And for some cuteness, some of our local 4-H kids brought animals to visit our residents.

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Adversity brings out the best and worst in people.

 

[sourland]

I think this belongs here

Daddy always said, "Never wrestle with a pig. The pig has fun and you get scat on."

@The Moonshiner thanks for presenting the side of those of us who live with a loved one dealing with anxiety/depression.

 

[The Moonshiner]

I agree.
Life certainly is messy isn't it.

I also thank you for your insightful input from a males point of view.

Ya life can be messy.
Now I'm gonna find my happy place and dance...

No not like this. I'm not that much of a hillbilly....


Oh ya. This is better.....

 

[SnapdragonQ]

A long time ago a female friend of mine said
We dont always want you to try and fix everything we sometimes just want you to listen
So that's what I go by

"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"

Probably one of the most helpful books I've read in terms of explaining the differences in how men and women process, think, and communicate different than one another.
Like @sdm111 and @The Moonshiner are talking about.

As a more linear and logical female myself, I found it helpful even to better understand my friends, who tend to be more typical emotional females. It helped me to be a better friend to them and also to be a better parent.
I'm sure there are more modern versions of the above book, but the concept is pretty much the same. The brain is just hardwired different (usually) and how boys are typically raised as opposed to how girls are typically raised tends to cement those differences.

 

[FortCluck]

Ya life can be messy.
Now I'm gonna find my happy place and dance...
View attachment 2107003 No not like this. I'm not that much of a hillbilly....


Oh ya. This is better.....

This is hilarious

 

[FortCluck]

Ya in some situations it is more complicated.
There are situations where the partner really doesn't give a st!t or not enough to care to try to be supportive. That sucks.
And I haven't personally seen a situation where there wasn't something else going on. Lots of times depression is a symptom or side effect of something else. Either another mental health issue or from a trama. In those causes if you don't work on the other working on the depression alone is fruitless.
Another thing ive noticed about woman is there overwhelming ability to attach shame to circumstances that they shouldn't. Shame especially when misplaced seems a major struggle or hurdle for woman that men don't deal with as much or understand.
I have seen woman that seem to get stuck or seem to except this is just life for me.
Not to say "just get over it" but it will be hard to get to a better place if youre not moving forward. Even if its just baby steps moving forward is moving to a healthier life. Sometimes its one step forward and three steps backwards and maybe it is the guy in me but I think doing something is more effective then doing nothing.

My depression comes from my medical diagnosis and meds I have to take for it. some days I am perfectly fine and other days I just want to stay in bed all day, but you will not see me stay in bed all day. Maybe 10 years ago I would have, but now I know how to defeat my depression. I do take paxil to help a little bit because some days I have really bad anxiety or depression that I can't do anything about because it's a side effect from the medication I have to take, but I can't get rid of that medication because it's the only thing that's keeping me alive. It's such a catch 22.

My husband has learned how to deal with me. He makes me laugh or gets me out of the house when he knows I'm having a difficult time. He's the best partner ever.

 

[ShrekDawg]

Ya life can be messy.
Now I'm gonna find my happy place and dance...
View attachment 2107003 No not like this. I'm not that much of a hillbilly....


Oh ya. This is better.....

I think the funniest part is him trying to run away from the raccoon at the end

 

[Martha in missouri]

Just got off my medication maybe a month or two ago because, I was taking it a very, very long time during which I outlived the dr. that prescribed it and his partner as well(both died from cancer -different types)

I was feeling as "normal" I guess as possible and doing okay. But this virus has changed things. I'm back to crying over everything. I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm angry with G-D for keeping me alive to continue being alone (never married or living with someone). Either he is making an exception of me because he doesn't care for my life choices, or adding years to my life as punishment.

The virus just enhances everything. I wonder if I will ever get to see my son 34 again. He had vacation plans for January(with his GF) but the virus caused it to be cancelled. He had told me in advance he wasn't coming out for my birthday(July) because - more travel plans. His GF wanted to sight see Chicago at night. As a former Chicago resident for 50 years I didn't think it was a safe destination and especially not at night.

He did not intend to introduce her to me - guess he is embarassed to have such an old mother (I was 38 when he was born). Also my home is nothing special and I am not financially able to keep it up in best shape/me neither.

My son and GF live near ground zero for the virus. So I have many added worries about their safe keeping. Was hoping I'd be a grandmother some day but, I don't think I'll be around that long. He said his girlfriend wanted a lot of kids because she was the ONLY child in her family. My son is also an ONLY.

Sorry for long and rambling thread but, it might be useful when I kick off and someone wants to write up an obit for me.Hope for a decent burial so animals won't be picking my bones.

* please realize many of my comments are due to the recurrence of depression - something I've had since early school years- but, didn't know it.

Depression sucks. I am on so many meds now. I had a sort of break. George has cancer, after being free of it for 9 months it came back, dr said he had a 50% chance of making it a year, my mother - she was losing her grip with reality. Then she had a massive stroke, ended up in a nursing home where only myself, sons and husband came to see (neither my brother or sister did)...just too much way too much. My husband's mother died about 5 months before we found out he had cancer. We were still dealing with her estate.

I hate all the meds I am on. We call the shrink "my drug dealer", that is all he is for. I have a therapist for both of us. Now, this virus. George is weak, still getting chemo, I can't get help (we live on 10 acres) because of the virus. Can't see therapist, can't hug my kids....again too much.

But - each day I take my drugs and move on. It is hard as hell. I was told I had been prob depressed since about 4-5 years old. My mother was very abusive, still verbally until she had her stroke and didn't know anyone. I was her target, not my sister or brother. Now she is dead. My family is now my husband, kids and grandkids. And George's sister and niece.

I have my cats, dog, bees and now chickens. Missouri wet clay - so hopefully I can get a garden in.

I have been researching meditation. Some seems too weird, Louise Hay books make me cry too much. I found 2 books that have helped me. "The Body Keeps Score" by Bessel Van Der Kolk,MD and this one sounds trite, "Real Happiness, the power of meditation" by Sharon Salzberg. It isn't a sitting in a lotus position, with windchimes and such type instruction.

If you have never been in that horrible black deep place that seems there is no way out, it is hard to understand how it is your every minute.

Take care.
Martha

 

[CapricornFarm]

Oh crap, I just realized I have crabs!View attachment 2106472

Yum!