Glad you got this figured out...I ordered two unknown chicks that ended up being one of each (lucky me). I have actually enjoyed the roo more then the hen, she's always been flightier. The roo comes right up to people (might have something to do with me feeding him whole peanuts), he will "talk" to you, and stands right outside the bay windows, watching what goes on inside (even despite my dogs attempting to penetrate glass to get to him). He also allows himself to be handled very nicely, I rarely have to chase him, yet he knows to stay out of the way of my toddler (right out of reach is a better description!
He also has those blonde streaks on his neck - I can't post pics yet, but you can see his pix on my BYC page. I have been comparing him to other silkie pix on this forum, and his comb seems a little different then a true silkie. The hen also looks very different from other silkie hens I've seen on here. Might have a mutt thing going on...
I also added some pix of them as chicks, in hindsight of course you can tell a lot of subtle things that helped me distinguish them.
Oh, and by the way, about the crowing...my roo has never been aggressive or flies around, etc. but if you are not used to hearing crowing, it will "disturb" you, regardless of how loud it is. Maybe it's my sleep patterns, but mine always wakes me up (good thing is he rarely starts before 7 am), but that's how I can "check" daily to make sure he's okay
The crowing is definitely better once they've learned how to; otherwise they just sound like something deflating :S
My roo's have round heads just like my pullets and I couldn't tell the one was a roo until it started crowing...mystery solved
