Cup o' Joe and Tea Too

[ValerieJ]

Several years ago, I developed a bad habit of hitting my head pretty hard against things, like walls, when upset. I wonder if that may have caused me to experience any cognitive decline. I think I also have had depression from grief recently, I had a falling out with and lost someone who I was pretty close to a week or two ago. I cried a lot, but it isn't as bad now as it initially was.

Well, that's really rough. It's hard to lose friends.

My grief is the loss of my son, my only child. When it comes, I just have to give it some time and space, and I get through it. My signature quote in in honor of him. I remind myself it was so much better to have had him in my life for 32 years, than to have never known him. He was the best person I ever knew.

I highly recommend allowing yourself to experience the grief of losing your friend. Allow yourself to go down memory lane and cray as much as you need to. If this loss wasn't due to a death, then rethink the loss. Does it really have to be this way?

 

[CarpCharacin]

Well, that's really rough. It's hard to lose friends.

My grief is the loss of my son, my only child. When it comes, I just have to give it some time and space, and I get through it. My signature quote in in honor of him. I remind myself it was so much better to have had him in my life for 32 years, than to have never known him. He was the best person I ever knew.

I highly recommend allowing yourself to experience the grief of losing your friend. Allow yourself to go down memory lane and cray as much as you need to. If this loss wasn't due to a death, then rethink the loss. Does it really have to be this way?

I'm so sorry that you lost your son. That has to be extremely difficult. Even the thought of going through that is painful to me, and I don't even have kids.

The loss of my friend wasn't due to a death, but I think that it has to be this way. They made it pretty clear that they no longer want me in their life, and while that hurts very much, I'd rather find someone who does than cling to someone who doesn't.

 

[ValerieJ]

I'm so sorry that you lost your son. That has to be extremely difficult. Even the thought of going through that is painful to me, and I don't even have kids.

The loss of my friend wasn't due to a death, but I think that it has to be this way. They made it pretty clear that they no longer want me in their life, and while that hurts very much, I'd rather find someone who does than cling to someone who doesn't.

When you have even a small part in the decision of loss, time really can heal your heart. I know it seems impossible right now, but take it from a senior citizen who has had to say good bye through the years to toxic people that I loved. You do eventually feel better, and see clearer, and know you did the right thing. And then you thank yourself.

It's the sudden and total loss that makes that impossible. I've learned to embrace that place in my heart that broke one day. Occasionally, it reminds me and starts hurting again, usually out of the blue. Then I say, hello, old friend. But, in the beginning it was a continuous pain, so I'm happy to have found joy in life again.

 

[drumstick diva]

You are very wise James. Unfortunately I do cling to someone who doesn't. I just recall the many good things about them, and try hard to overlook their bad points.

 

[CarpCharacin]

Maybe being sleep deprived is making me extra emotional, LOL. I hope I'm not being annoying by talking about my bad experiences a lot today. I guess it was really hard to be cut out of the life of someone who I really cared about, without them showing much, if any emotion, when they used to make me feel very valued and cared about.

 

[ValerieJ]

Maybe being sleep deprived is making me extra emotional, LOL. I hope I'm not being annoying by talking about my bad experiences a lot today. I guess it was really hard to be cut out of the life of someone who I really cared about, without them showing much, if any emotion, when they used to make me feel very valued and cared about.

You're safe here. Talk all you want! Sleep deprivation does have a big impact on your emotional and mental well-being. When I get to the end of my energy from lack of sleep, I get a little crabby. A body needs sleep. I feel bad for what you are going through. We're here for you.

 

[ValerieJ]

The rain is giving me another break. Need to go finish cleaning coops! I put a pot of coffee on for anyone who wants a cup. Water is hot for tea or cocoa too!

 

[CarpCharacin]

You're safe here. Talk all you want! Sleep deprivation does have a big impact on your emotional and mental well-being. When I get to the end of my energy from lack of sleep, I get a little crabby. A body needs sleep. I feel bad for what you are going through. We're here for you.

But I still don't feel like I have too much of a right to be upset about where I am, because the last psychologist I saw said that I benefited from sleeping during the day, and not doing much with my life.

 

[drumstick diva]

James what you wrote is exactly what happened to me- a very best friend.

 

[ValerieJ]

But I still don't feel like I have too much of a right to be upset about where I am, because the last psychologist I saw said that I benefited from sleeping during the day, and not doing much with my life.

You feel what you feel. Maybe you need to figure out how to flip the script in your life. What if you embraced the night time to accomplish things? For example, you brought us all through the last system upgrade, and that went smoother because you worked on it all night. You could probably even find meaningful work at night, working from home on the computer. I think a lot of websites and businesses rely on home computer users to provide technical support at night.