Depressed and needing a hug :(

ohhhh Goatie Pooooooh.....your cookies go out in the mail today dearie!
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my mom is coming over and taking me to the post office so out they go! nice and fresh.

m&m's, white, semi-sweet and milk chocolate chips hon. nice amount of salt. should cure just about anything!
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ready or not, here they come! Dollhouse Cookies to the rescue!
 
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The above's probably 90% of your problem, whether you realize it yet or not. If you were encouraged and appreciated instead of belittled and yelled at, you'd be able to cope with the other stuff..

Here's the trick: You gotta learn how to keep your head down and your chin up at the same time. I know that sounds silly, but I used to get yelled at a lot -- A LOT -- as a kid, too.. What I did was develop some really long-term goals without telling anybody or asking anybody's permission or opinions or anything else, and then I worked toward them.. Having those goals gave me something to focus on instead of how miserable I was, and the rougher things got, the more I was encouraged to put my head down, keep my chin up, and push through it as hard as I could.

I figured out what I wanted to do with my life as a 10th grader, and geared everything I did toward that.. Got an associates degree (quick and relatively cheap), got a good full time job, and started stashing money away while I still lived at home..

When I was just barely 21, I got up one Saturday morning, walked into the living room, and finally lifted my head back up. I looked my mom right square in the eye with an uncontrollable smirk and said "I signed a contract on a house last night. I'll be moving out as soon as they're finished building it."

Her jaw hit the floor and WWIII ensued... She didn't even know I was looking to leave.. There was wailing and gnashing of teeth, and I was told how stupid I was for doing something like that without seeking their counsel, blah blah blah.. By that point, though, I was a fairly confident young man -- even if a little angry and damaged -- who'd realized long ago that they were idiots. My mom fumed and ranted and squalled like a mashed monkey, but I just walked around with a big goofy grin on my face because...hey...what's she gonna do, ya know? I had the satisfaction of knowing that she couldn't really hurt me anymore.

It was an extremely satisfying day, and buying that house turned out to be among the best decisions I ever made.

One more thing...and this is important, so listen up.

Whatever you do, DO NOT go down the path of drugs and booze and rebellion. It's tempting as a quick escape, but it only hurts you. If things are the way they sound for you right now, you're gonna have to be really careful and make good decisions for your own future.. Nobody cares about your own future as much as you do.. Trust me when I tell you that it's MUCH better to go down the path of hard work and diligence because when you grow up with people calling you lazy and stupid and everything else they can think of, there's simply NO GREATER REVENGE than achieving success and happiness on your own.

Drugs and booze and partying won't get you there, though. Lots of my friends took that path and, uh...things aren't so great for them right now. You don't wanna do that.
 
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The above's probably 90% of your problem, whether you realize it yet or not. If you were encouraged and appreciated instead of belittled and yelled at, you'd be able to cope with the other stuff..

Here's the trick: You gotta learn how to keep your head down and your chin up at the same time. I know that sounds silly, but I used to get yelled at a lot -- A LOT -- as a kid, too.. What I did was develop some really long-term goals without telling anybody or asking anybody's permission or opinions or anything else, and then I worked toward them.. Having those goals gave me something to focus on instead of how miserable I was, and the rougher things got, the more I was encouraged to put my head down, keep my chin up, and push through it as hard as I could.

I figured out what I wanted to do with my life as a 10th grader, and geared everything I did toward that.. Got an associates degree (quick and relatively cheap), got a good full time job, and started stashing money away while I still lived at home..

When I was just barely 21, I got up one Saturday morning, walked into the living room, and finally lifted my head back up. I looked my mom right square in the eye with an uncontrollable smirk and said "I signed a contract on a house last night. I'll be moving out as soon as they're finished building it."

Her jaw hit the floor and WWIII ensued... She didn't even know I was looking to leave.. There was wailing and gnashing of teeth, and I was told how stupid I was for doing something like that without seeking their counsel, blah blah blah.. By that point, though, I was a fairly confident young man -- even if a little angry and damaged -- who'd realized long ago that they were idiots. My mom fumed and ranted and squalled like a mashed monkey, but I just walked around with a big goofy grin on my face because...hey...what's she gonna do, ya know? I had the satisfaction of knowing that she couldn't really hurt me anymore.

It was an extremely satisfying day, and buying that house turned out to be among the best decisions I ever made.

One more thing...and this is important, so listen up.

Whatever you do, DO NOT go down the path of drugs and booze and rebellion. It's tempting as a quick escape, but it only hurts you. If things are the way they sound for you right now, you're gonna have to be really careful and make good decisions for your own future.. Nobody cares about your own future as much as you do.. Trust me when I tell you that it's MUCH better to go down the path of hard work and diligence because when you grow up with people calling you lazy and stupid and everything else they can think of, there's simply NO GREATER REVENGE than achieving success and happiness on your own.

Drugs and booze and partying won't get you there, though. Lots of my friends took that path and, uh...things aren't so great for them right now. You don't wanna do that.

Such great advice!
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You are a wonderful success and mentor to those who wish to learn from you!
 

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