- Jan 31, 2007
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Shelly, I feel your pain. I was in the same condition when I had my first child, I lost him, but he went to live with his dad so it's not entirely the same. He was 2 at the time and I didn't start seeing him again until he was 5. He still lives with his dad and I see him every other weekend, he's 14 now.
Sad to say, I'm falling back into the same depression again. I have 3 children, my 14 year old son, a 9 year old daughter and a 5 month old baby boy. I am severely depressed, i've lost my job, my car.....The only thing that keeps me going each day is my mother. I live with her and she keeps me in line as much as possible, she also helps out ALOT with my children.
If it weren't for her, I would already have lost the two living with me.
As far as contacting your son, I would have done the same thing you did! Wouldn't have thought twice about it!
My kids use facebook, my 9 year old mostly just plays the games, supervised of course, but there may be a slim chance your younger son uses it too.
I didn't see if you said you cold send him a message, I know my daughters page is set up where people not on her friends list cannot send her messages. If there is a message option, maybe try sending a message?
I know it's hard to do, but try not to stress on him not accepting your friend request yet. He may be thinking it over or discussing it with his foster parents.
Give him a little time, he WILL come around eventually and I'm sure he has alot to talk to you about.
Like a few others suggested, if he does respond, have him give you contact information with his foster parents so you can try to set up something with them.
You did the right thing by letting go. It is the HARDEST thing any parent can ever do, I know this first hand, but you did what was best for them no matter what anyone tells you!
I hope you hear from your son soon! Sending prayers your way!
Sad to say, I'm falling back into the same depression again. I have 3 children, my 14 year old son, a 9 year old daughter and a 5 month old baby boy. I am severely depressed, i've lost my job, my car.....The only thing that keeps me going each day is my mother. I live with her and she keeps me in line as much as possible, she also helps out ALOT with my children.
If it weren't for her, I would already have lost the two living with me.
As far as contacting your son, I would have done the same thing you did! Wouldn't have thought twice about it!
My kids use facebook, my 9 year old mostly just plays the games, supervised of course, but there may be a slim chance your younger son uses it too.
I didn't see if you said you cold send him a message, I know my daughters page is set up where people not on her friends list cannot send her messages. If there is a message option, maybe try sending a message?
I know it's hard to do, but try not to stress on him not accepting your friend request yet. He may be thinking it over or discussing it with his foster parents.
Give him a little time, he WILL come around eventually and I'm sure he has alot to talk to you about.
Like a few others suggested, if he does respond, have him give you contact information with his foster parents so you can try to set up something with them.
You did the right thing by letting go. It is the HARDEST thing any parent can ever do, I know this first hand, but you did what was best for them no matter what anyone tells you!
I hope you hear from your son soon! Sending prayers your way!
