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Although not ideal, sometimes conversing with someone via an avenue like FB, is alot more productive and 'safe'. When you speak to someone over the phone or even in person you can hear or see the reaction to things that have been said, so you may be a little more guarded than you would be when the element of 'feeling' is taken out of the equation. I know when I email or chat on FB I tend to be alot more open and discuss things that I would not say in person or over the phone. Does that make sense? I think you son might be a little more willing to open up on fb, where obviously he feels comfortable, than if you were to speak with him on the phone or in person.
Is there anyway to tell if he has been on his FB page since you contacted him?
 
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Blackbird, sometimes Facebook is the only option. I have a sister who won't talk to me and her mom and other sister. I hear a snippet hear and there from other people she still contacts, but not enough to know anything. I don't have her phone #, address, I don't even know what state she lives in. But I have found her on Facebook. Granted, Facebook is not the ideal hook-up, but sometimes it's all there is. Anything more may be stalking.

I'm not above stalking.
 
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In our state, you can contact the Dept Social Services and ask to be put in contact with your child or parent. If the other party has requested contact the DSS will get'em together. I would explore whether or not the OP's home state has a comparable service.

I will also say that no one, not anyone need know your story, I am very cautious about what I put out there on the internet. I suggest you may use some caution also. the world is a very small place, common friends, uncommon enemies, EX-HUSBANDS can read your post.
 
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not all adoptions are open ones, meaning all the info is known by both parties.
 
Just be aware that not everyone gets on FB everyday. He might not have access to a computer except at school after his work is done, or at home on the weekend. Some of my friends don't access it for weeks at a time. Don't be discouraged if you haven't heard from him, yet.

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Shelley, when my DS was four years old his dad took him for a weekend visit and never brought him back.
I've recently been in contact with my now an adult son.
I so know what you are going through.
Please PM me if you ever need to just talk.
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Blackbird, sometimes Facebook is the only option. I have a sister who won't talk to me and her mom and other sister. I hear a snippet hear and there from other people she still contacts, but not enough to know anything. I don't have her phone #, address, I don't even know what state she lives in. But I have found her on Facebook. Granted, Facebook is not the ideal hook-up, but sometimes it's all there is. Anything more may be stalking.

I'm not above stalking.

This is my exact situation also. I found my little sister who I haven't seen or spoken to in 8 years on FB... I sent her a message giving her my email and saying that I loved and missed her. I never heard from her, but I know its cause her mom doesn't want her to have any contact with me.
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The last time I saw her she was 7 and clung on to me and cried when they left.
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I can only imagine what kind of vile falsities her mother is saying about me. Sorry, getting off topic.
 

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