Disposable kids

[lockedhearts]

The sad thing is, there are so many people that can't have kids on their own and can't afford adoption, if you don't want your child, find someone who does. I would love to have a child, this is just sad

 

[Ladyhawke1]

Dear EweSheep:

I think you missed the point of "We the people."

 

[EweSheep]

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Uh oh!

Thanks for reminding me!

I thought I did mention WE as all of us.............

 

[smom1976]

this contributes to the problem.. there was a post on here about a week ago on how the court was not allowing this girls parents to punish this girl for her actions... she was out of control.. I could only imagine.... this mother was more than likely feeling some of the same types of fustration. Not knowing how to punish a teen or tween.. my 12 year old has been very dificult in the past. While he is starting to come around and act civil. We have had to come up with ways to punish.. FI this kid loves to read.. so as a punishment he could not read for so many days.. We went through 2 years of total h#ll with him.. Many times I wanted to just not let him come over and only live with his mother.. this too happens in society more often then people realize. When the child becomes difficult one parent quits and the other parent has to take over.. in this case there might not have been another parent. Now while I do not know this mother.. and I am not sticking up for her by any means .. we should however not judge and see that some teens are extreemly difficult. She was trying to get help and was denied.. I personally would have tried harder to get undenied before I dumped my kid off but that is me.. not everyone can do it again and again..

 

[debilorrah]

This whole thing started when Nebraska's safe haven law was extended to children of any age, not just newborns. The first case was the 35 year old man that dropped off 9 of his 10 kids at a hospital in Nebraska. At first everyone said HOW CAN HE DO THAT? then you hear the history. Kids from 17 months to 18 years of age, they had their first child at 17. Mother passed away, dad is unemployed. He reached the end of his rope and had no other way to care for these children. He did them a service, not a dis-service.

In other cases, the children are problem children, in trouble with the law, drugs, alcohol, and basic disrespect. What else can a parent do? Let them run amuck or drop them off?

 

[onthespot]

could you imagine if california passed that law? I bet 10% of all kids would instantly be "liberated" from their homes.

 

[debilorrah]

You are so right -they would be, I think it would be more than 10% though. The way kids run amuck in this state is mind blowing.

 

[dangerouschicken]

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Adoption is NOT expensive. If you adopt thru the social services in your area (i.e. the foster care system), your costs are maybe, $400 to $1000 tops, and that is only lawyer fees. Some lawyers will do it FOR FREE. We have adopted 3 children thru Child Protective Services and all adoptions were either FREE or around $400.

As for 'sterilization for those people that are "pregnant happy" instead of birth control,' I couldn't agree with you more. The birth mom for our three daughters has had 7 children (that we know of) that have ALL been taken by the state. She has mental illness and just keeps getting pregnant over and over, going to the hospital, having a baby, and leaving it there. The few she DID take home she neglected, then called CPS to "come and gettem" cuz she couldn't take their crying anymore. YES sterilzation is extreme, and allowing the government to have the right to sterilize folks is essentially against the constitution, BUT offering to do it rather than offering birth control would be a huge step in the right direction.

My daughter has autism, and it is stressful, but I would never drop her off somewhere like that. I am not going to fault this mom either, only because she may have a truly disturbed child she can no longer handle. Better she let him be cared for elsewhere than having someone end up dead. And it happens. Violence like that is real.

 

[Southernbelle]

Our foster daughter was one of 7 children born to her drug-addicted mother and each and every child was removed from her care when they were young, so the siblings don't even know each other. I know they offered her sterilization repeatedly, but she always refused and she never gave up her parental rights either, she always had to have them terminated on her.

In our area adopting through the foster system is FREE - they even continue the monthly stipend and Medicaid until the child is 18. So, in essense, they PAY you to adopt these children and they still don't have enough adoptive homes.

 

[debilorrah]

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081028/ap_on_re_us/safe_haven

It happened again.... 21 kids now left at Nebraska hospitals.