Disposable kids

[MagsC]

I cant imagine even THINKING something like that. I have five kids, four grown and went through some real tough times as a single mom. I never gave up though and dont regret it one bit.
I feel so sad for those children.

 

[Betsy]

Too bad there wasn't a network of safe homes with counselors and older, caring people available where troubled parents and their children could get help and back on their feet. For instance, that father who was unemployed and had nine kids. They would all have been put in a home together, and the father would have received counseling and assistance finding a job. Once he got a job and everything under control, they could have moved out and still been together as a family. Oh, well, I am dreaming....

 

[Chicabee19]

Coming from the other side of this type of story...

None of us can know what that family may have suffered at the hands of a probably unattached and violent child.

I wish we'd known to drop off stepson before he tried to kill us.

 

[debilorrah]

There are many, many different situations out there in families all over. Not one of us can know what any of these parents had been going through. When I child becomes psychotic, they take it out on themselves or the people around them. And it happens more often than people think.

 

[The Chicken Lady]

We're so separated from each other anymore. In the past, the proverb, "it takes a village to raise a child," was actually true. Parents had more community support than they do now. If a kid was acting out and wasn't at home, but in the neighborhood, neighbors would step in, provide discipline, and report what happened to the parents.

We're all so alone. Technology (although I love it) has made many of us less productive, with fewer responsibilities and chores. I think this isolation and lack of productive pursuits contributes to a lot of the problems we have today.

 

[Chicabee19]

I agree completely Lady.

 

[kinnip]

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Totally! Sometimes it really hurts my feelings that some real heartless jerks have a child. I don't have a child, by choice. As a woman, I'm hardwired to want a child, but as a reasoning human being I know I'm not in a situation to properly raise one. I'm 34 and I've managed to live a normal, if sometimes wild, life without getting pregnant. Should I decide I'm at a place in my life where a child could be a happy addition, I'll adopt one. The pathos is beyond the imagination. Most of this can be nipped in the bud with education and birth control.

 

[kinnip]

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We are at a weird place in human development. In time, we'll come to focus on pursuits that can accommodate our needs as well as our desires. I'm rootin' for a Star Trek world!

 

[Dar]

I have read most of the posts and I am really pleased that this has remained civil..please lets continue to do so..this is great a bunch of adults having a cicil conversation without getting nasty....so pats on the backs all round!!!!

but coming from the mom of 3 who has had nightmares over my oldest son I am sitting on the fence..

My oldest is 16 and has been a handful since he was 5, getting suspended and expelled from school many times. We have hd to move to he can attend school in different school board many times..

When we tried to dicipline our son (groundings ect..) he would go to school the next day and say we beat him..CPS was called and we were made to feel like criminals. this pattern continued until he was about 12 then he turned violent. Beating up his younger siblings, threatening to cut theier heads off. when I called CPS for help, support services I was told "ooo boys will be boys"..

this all continued till October 2007 when my son came forward to me and told me since he was 5 a family friend had been molesting him!....I died that day! everything I thought I was as a parent was out the window....(yes we are in criminal court right now the offender has a long history of this that we nevr knew of. )

there were many times where I wanted to just hand him over so he could get the help he needs. I am just over the limit to get assistance witht the cost of therapy..

In February 2008 he threw me down a flight of stairs and i let it go as a mistake he showed signs of remorse tight away...This past Saturday he struck me again. I called the police and had him charged with assaualt and he was jailed for the night...

But now I feel like the worst mother in the world i had y baby locked up. But now the courts can force him to get help cause the CPS was not able to offer it to him.

I am sorry for the long post but you can never know what another person has gone through until you have walked a mile in their shoes.

 

[debilorrah]

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It is so unfortunate, but once he becomes an adult he can get the help he needs. And even more unfortunate, if he tries to comit suicide, he can get the help he needs. I have recently been there.... It is sad that it has to be forced in order for help to happen.